Meet Kevin Kasir | Gay Life Coach

We had the good fortune of connecting with Kevin Kasir and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Kevin, let’s talk legacy – what do you want yours to be?
I want to create an LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY again. Through my coaching, I want to show queer people that they can admire themselves mentally, physically, and emotionally. I would hope that this self-love would translate to love for their peers as well, and would overshadow any jealousy that may have lingered before. I love being social with members of the LGBTQ+ community whether it’s a quick compliment or a deep discussion. Through my 1 on 1 and group coaching programs, I hope to encourage a love and comfort when my clients meet other queer people. This exact love and comfort to and from the community was by far the most transformative experience in my life mentally, physically, and emotionally.

As a person, I want people to remember me as genuine and fierce. I hope that my openness and realness shows people that a facade is tiring and unnecessary to uphold. I make decisions in life based on what I feel and want. The fact is I can never know exactly what someone else is thinking, so I do not make my decisions based on what I imagine other people want from me. I am confident and let my opinions be known, while also making it clear that I am open to listening to other opinions. This can be important things like LGBTQ+ issues, or even when my friends are picking where we should go to eat! If more people did the same, there would be a lot less overthinking!

Let’s talk shop? Tell us more about your career, what can you share with our community?
As a gay life coach, I help LGBTQ+ people reach their goals through actionable steps. Therapy is focused on healing the past, while life coaching is focused on moving forward. I have led support groups for anxiety and depression, and I’ve done therapy myself. Ever since I can remember, I’ve always made little goals for myself and worked towards them. Examples being to be more social, to learn how to sew and knit, to be more goth, or to learn how to exercise. I’ve also put in continuous intentional effort to keep my addiction to XXX videos at bay.

My experiences in life have propelled me to admiring myself mentally, physically, and emotionally. I’ve helped my clients do the same, by breaking down unquantifiable goals into quantifiable steps. It may be from my experience being an elementary school teacher where I learned how to break things up into the most minute details so that people know exactly what steps they need to take to make little goals that add up to their larger goal. After years of doing jobs I hated with little flexibility and helping people I’m not interested in, I’m most excited to have my own business helping the LGBTQ+ community specifically and see all the doors this will open up for myself and others around me. It was not easy to get to this point, but the reason I am here is because I never settled for dissatisfaction. There have come points in my life where I get so dragged down by jobs, living situations, or people, enough to the point of having panic attacks. Each time I feel dragged down by one of these things, I usually take action to get myself out of it within just a couple months or less.

I want the world to know that we are able to wake up every day and admire ourselves mentally, physically, and emotionally. There are so many things I wish I had, some I can control and some I cannot. If we focus on the things we can control in life, we will feel so much better working towards those things. Even before reaching our goals, we will feel proud to achieve them. An example of this would be someone who wants to work on the broad idea of self-growth. They could see social media posts and leave it at that. The next step could be youtube videos and articles, then talking with friends, then seeing a therapist, then seeing a life coach. Even if they never reach their pinnacle of self-growth, they will surely be proud with each step of the way. We will always want more in life, and having goals is great. Enjoy the present and enjoy the progress, and that is the key to admiring yourself as a whole.

If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
I’m really not much of a planner, so I think first we would hang out at my place and sit and chat for a while. Maybe we’d watch some K-pop music videos and a scary movie. Eventually we would go somewhere to eat, and if they aren’t from California we’d for sure go to In-N-Out! Ramen would be a good choice as well. At night we could visit the bars in West Hollywood, Silverlake, or Downtown LA. Hopefully there would be a specific event that weekend with queer performers or drag performances.

After that we might go to some free museums which are all around LA. I’d probably call up other friends too so we can all hang out and have a good time together. I’m so caught up in having a nice relaxed time that I forgot they’d probably want to go to the beach too! So we’d go to Venice beach and see the performers and vendors on the beachwalk. Maybe I’d take them to UCLA too and lead them on a tour just like I used to do long ago as an orientation leader. Hopefully they would come with some ideas in mind, because I’d probably fill up the rest of our time with catching up and hanging out at home.

The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
I would first have to thank my best friend Sierra Bean Oren. I genuinely did not know what life coaching was until she told me, and after that the rest is history. My original goal was to be a psychologist, but I had no interest in going to more school after getting my bachelor’s degree in psychology from UCLA. I thought 4 years would’ve been enough to get a great job, but nowadays it isn’t! I went from corporate job to classroom teacher, and frankly I hated all of it. She’s pretty much been my life coach my whole life since she has always stated the hidden meaning behind the things I say even if I didn’t want to admit it out loud.

Of course, I would also have to thank the amazing queer people that I’ve met in LA as well. I use the term “queer” specifically here, because I especially mean the unique and diverse individuals that you might not see as much in mainstream gay media. LGBTQ+ people of color have really opened the doors for me to feel like I have a true chosen family. Some people I’ve hung out with 1 on 1, others I only see when I’m out, and some I say hi and bye as quick as I possibly can, but regardless I light up the most when I’m in those spaces because of their genuineness and fierceness.

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Image Credits
Red Background: Chrystal Starr Pink Background: Kevin Kasir