Meet Sicola Elliott | Mom & Creative

We had the good fortune of connecting with Sicola Elliott and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Sicola, as a parent, what do you feel is the most meaningful thing you’ve done for them?

With three kids ages 16, 18, and 19, my husband and I often talk about this journey of parenting. He insists it’s not luck but rather the result of good, intentional parenting. And you know what? He’s right. I think that the most important thing that I have done as a parent is being willing to do anything to meet the moment for my children. Meaning no one child is parent the same, nor do they need or want the same things.

My parenting is flexible which gives them a lot of autonomy to develop into who they want to become. My children mirror who I am as a person and I am grateful that I like what I see. Sure, they are spoiled, as we belong to a generation of parents that want to provide more than we had. There are moments when we question our choices, like when no one remembers whose turn it is for the dishes, or when rooms get messy. But on the flip side of that, they are all independent, good students, self-motivated, and good human beings. If they did the chores and dishes like they were supposed to they would almost be like perfect kids. But I’ll take the good with the bad and me yelling daily who dish day is it? because who wants perfect kids, I sure don’t.

When parenting I never forget what it is like to be a teenager, and my teenage heart guides my parenting approach. Meaning, every day I strive to be an aware parent, continually and consistently working on myself to provide a strong foundation for them. Meeting the moment for my children is easy because I am not stuck to one way of parenting or doing things. What works for one kid will not necessarily work for the other two and I lead with and understand that.

Who I am as a person has a huge impact on my children. Each day I decide to be a better version of myself for them. I love the way I parent. The fruit of it all lets me know that I am doing something right. Just the other day my son and his girlfriend broke up and being there for that broken heart means everything to me. It means that I can give him the tools I didn’t have at his age to work through it. My heart was broken so much as a teenager, and no one ever knew, but with my kids, I have open dialogue, and if they act like they missed the invitation for open dialogue, I have at least a thousand questions in my back pocket to get to the bottom of anything, and I am relentless. I am their mother and I am attuned to the energy of their heart. It is my job to know what they need, and if I don’t know what they need, it is my job to find out.

Witnessing who they are becoming is my greatest accomplishment. This accomplishment is ongoing, there is no destination because they are still developing, but I am honored to live my life in such a way that has a positive impact on theirs. The most important thing I have done as a parent is live my life in a way where my children have access to all parts of me. I don’t hide my pain, life challenges, or my joy. My children get to see all of me and I am most aware of that. With that awareness I have given them and continue to give them space to practice who they want to become and to live up to the standard they set for themselves while they watch me model the standard I have set for my life.

I am currently living the impact that I have on my children and I am inspired by it. Although parenting is hard and kids should come with an operating manual it’s the most rewarding journey.

Let’s talk shop? Tell us more about your career, what can you share with our community?
In my book, “Blank Canvas, F*ck it, I’ll Paint,” I dive into the idea that life is a blank canvas, and you can just throw caution to the wind and say, “F*ck it, I’ll paint.” It’s all about seizing the moment and just going for it. That’s what my art is about – taking that leap, summoning the courage, and keeping at it. Being creative brings joy and calm into my life. I call myself an artist because what I do every day, whether it’s at work or just living life, feels like art to me.
Now, my brand? It’s a bit more epic in my head than it is in reality. I have not made the New York Times Best-Seller list yet or been crowned the vision board queen. My brand is a tale of who I am, what matters to me, and how I roll through life. And you can’t put a price on that kind of authenticity.
I might not end up as a household name or some big-shot in the vision board scene, but in my mind, I’m already all of that. And as I navigate this crazy journey, that feeling is what keeps me pushing forward. 

Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.

So, if I had to paint a picture of a perfect day, it would be a simple trip down to the beach. In my head, I’m this wild adventurer, but in reality not at all.

And after soaking in the sun, we’d head over to Yard House to grab a bite. Nothing fancy, just good food and good company. My friends know if they want to do more they better have it planned because with me you get what you get. Sometimes, the best days are the easygoing ones; that’s my kind of adventure – sand, waves, and a chill meal at Yard House.

Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
First, I would like to give a shout-out to my husband, who has greatly supported a creative spirit like myself. I would also like to thank my family for allowing me to be myself and supporting all the lanes I jump in. My personal development journey started with Brene’ Brown’s books, The Gift of Imperfections, I Thought It Was Just Me, and Daring Greatly, so shout-out to Brene’ Brown. And Oprah got to shout out Oprah for the impact her content has had on my life. And last but not least, my parents for all their support and for being my number one fans.

Website: www.sicolaelliott.com / www.myteenageheart.com

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