We asked some of the city’s most brilliant and creative minds to tell us about the most difficult decision they’ve had to make.
Chantal Nchako | Actress, Director, Author, Educator, and Humanitarian
The most difficult decision I have ever had to make was being myself and staying true to my morals, my culture and my uniqueness. It can be challenging in this industry with everything on display to stay balanced in life. I believe that society can evoke a false sense of reality which people attach to and try to emulate. I think it is very important to have balance in your life mentally, physically and emotionally so you can always be grounded and present in each divine moment. One thing outsiders don’t see is the work you put in that is not on display. It’s great to uplift people’s achievements that one is aware of however the achievements that one may not be aware of are the most rewarding in my opinion. It can take years and years to work consistently and/or be financially free as an actor especially as a dark skin woman of color who may not fit the mold of Hollywood’ standards. You can really lose your mind trying to fit in a box that was not created to preserve you. Read more>>
Bill Oberst Jr. | Actor
The most difficult decision I’ve ever had to make? Deciding how important it was to be important. In my business, one’s perceived status is the opener of doors. It can also be the destroyer of souls. I remember a particular red carpet to which I was invited after an Emmy win. It was a bigger event than I’d normally be asked to, and I was feeling prideful and a bit arrogant. Walking into the roped-off area, I passed a gentleman sitting on a piece of cardboard on the sidewalk. He obviously lived on that sidewalk. I saw him. He saw me see him. He asked for nothing, but I felt the impulse to help. Instead, I’m ashamed to say. I walked – no, I strutted – past him into my event. I was on the list. I was behind the velvet rope. He was not. There was enough food there to feed many families. Everyone was hugging. Cameras clicked. I felt sick. Something changed for me that night. Something broke. I realized that I was a lousy celebrity. I thought of quitting, but I love my work. So, instead, I decided to quit trying to be important. No more chasing fame. No more trying to be on anyone’s list. I turned to my family. I turned to what matters. Read more>>
Jennifer Coyne | Business Manager & CPA
The most difficult decision that I have ever had to make was to move to LA and away from my family and all my friends. Read more>>
John Mayes | Producer and User Experience Architect
The most difficult decision that I’ve every had to make I have actually made several times, and that is the decision to abandon what I am doing and start over. Every time it is agonizingly painful and, honestly, I resist making it. But in every case it has resulted in a positive move forward. After investing 4 years of undergraduate work in studying to be an architect and 5 years in the profession, I made the decision to abandon that path and pursue another. After subsequently pursuing youth ministry for several years in graduate school and 3 years in the profession, I again made the decision to abandon that path and pursue another. After investing myself for 13 years into the community in Charlotte, North Carolina, I made the decision to abandon that place and move to another. Starting over always seems like you are rejecting your past, wasting all the time and effort you put into getting to where you are, only to go in a completely different direction. But nothing could be further from the truth. Read more>>
Image | Singer/Songwriter
How to not give up on myself when everyone else already did. Read more>>
Sarrahh Alkutb | Community Organizer. Poet. Public Speaker.
So many beautiful transformations and shifts surfaced in these past few years. We saw in 2020, how nothing can really be guaranteed, and we should look for joy wherever we can. I never realized just how many unique identities I hold and the importance of what that means to others that look like me. As I begin to write this beautiful share, I hope others resonate with my story as a first generation Lebanese-Syrian American hijabi wearing Muslim woman. These past few weeks, I have been reflecting on the many different moments that brought me to this very moment –to this very chair. The most difficult decision I ever had to make was leaving my personal business I developed from the ground up for ten years as a makeup artist to pursue what my soul was yearning for me to step into. My mind turns to the summer of 2017, when I had the honor of performing the Islamic religious pilgrimage called Hajj. Read more>>