We had the good fortune of connecting with Krystal Thompson and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Krystal, do you have any habits that you feel contribute to your effectiveness?
The same habits that I now coach my own clients through are exactly what have helped me succeed and get to where I am. Want to know the secret? It’s not always easy, but it is simple. We must treat our dreams and big ideas as if they are going to work. I mean really work, like “I’ve never even considered Plan B because this is going to work” work. When you show up with that energy day after day, incredible things happen. Let me be clear: it is completely normal to doubt yourself along the way. I still have days and nights of crushing doubt and fear, temper tantrums with myself in the mirror, low key cries in my car. I’m being real. But the key is to choose to move forward despite your doubt, rather than ever allowing it to be the reason you stop. When doubt arises, those who are more focused on the possibility of their failure than the possibility of their success tend to treat the existence of doubt as evidence confirming what they fear. And for most people, that fear is the worry that they are not enough. So we tell ourselves that we will be enough when we have accomplished our dreams. And because we’re finally enough, the fear and doubt will disappear. But! Because we don’t yet feel good enough to live that dream life, we don’t take action. So we remain stuck where we are, not feeling good enough to move forward, and the experience loops. When I work with folks going after their big dreams, this is where we start. What don’t you feel worthy of? Why don’t you feel worthy of it? What experiences have you had throughout your life that have instilled this belief within you? And most importantly, how can we heal those experiences and replace them with foundations of confidence, empowerment, and authority. We think we will be enough once we accomplish our dreams, but in reality it is the other way around. You will accomplish your goals when you feel worthy of having them. Because when you feel worthy of having something, you take real action toward it. You try things, you ask questions, you connect with people, you put yourself in the way of what will help you on your path – and that is how you get there. This is without a doubt what’s helped me succeed, and without a doubt what can help you to as well.
What should our readers know about your business?
I run an online coaching and healing platform called Hotel Wilderness. I help people with big dreams build the clarity and confidence to go after them: to build the life they want, not the one they think they have to settle for. I think what sets me apart from others is I have experienced first-hand everything I teach. I have been in the TRENCHES and have pulled myself out with the exact methods that I now coach people through. I know how overwhelming and terrifying and suffocating it can be to want a life you have no evidence of, I’ve been there. And I also know how completely worth it it is to keep going despite your fears, because I’m there now too. Like the list of books and people and communities that have supported me along the way, the list of things I’ve had to overcome is long. As a mixed race woman, I think I was taught at a young age to not take up too much space, not ask for too much. And I carried those with me for too long. But I believe our visions for better lives are invitations, and I got to a point where staying where I was was more painful than the fear of stepping into the unknown. It lights me up to believe in what others think is impossible; to truly tap into the magic of this world. I think our communities would be a lot brighter if the individuals within them lived lives they love, so that’s what I feel I’m here to do.
Any great local spots you’d like to shoutout?
My favorite thing about Los Angeles is the diversity of culture to sink into, food to enjoy, and experiences to have. Whenever friends and family come to visit, I want to share with them what I love most about living in Los Angeles: everything. So we’d spend a day by the ocean: walking the Santa Monica beach path or enjoying the solitude of Malibu, and definitely having dinner at Neptune’s. We’d do a day at LACMA with brunch or dinner at Sweet Chick, and a drive through the hills at night. We’d do my favorite day in Silver Lake: coffee in the courtyard at Cafecito Organico, brunch at Squirl, a walk through the neighborhood to take in all the architecture and design, happy hour at Black Cat, a movie at The Vista. We would definitely do a full food day: Jamaican or Ethiopian in Inglewood, tacos and small bites at Grand Central Market, dinner in Thai Town or at Night + Market Song. We’d play pool at my favorite hidden spot in Koreatown. And look, I’m going to be real honest here and say that I’d also probably take us on a studio lot tour and a Hollywood history or architecture tour. They can be cheesy, but they’re a great way to see a lot of the city at once.
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
I have put myself in the way of a lot of healing and self-empowerment over the years, so the whole of this list is incredibly long. But if I had to choose one, I would say Jen Sincero’s book You Are A Badass At Making Money. This book was the wind that flung my gates wide open when I began my journey of actually living the life I wanted. It taught me how to face my shame and resistance around money, which was ultimately facing my shame and resistance around living a full life. I would genuinely recommend it to anyone.
All portraits of me were taken by Marika Adamopoulos