Meet Chris Goode | Breakup Recovery & Relationship Hypnotherapist / Coach

We had the good fortune of connecting with Chris Goode and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Chris, we’d love to hear more about how you thought about starting your own business?
I grew in up in a rather tumultuous and difficult home environment. Part of that experience resulted in me living in foster care for a few years as a child. The challenges I faced around my relationship with my father and mother had a huge impact on the various relationships in my life, especially those involving romance, but also including those with other family members as well as friends. As I got older I really struggled when it came to developing healthy relationships, regulating my emotions, having self-worth, implementing healthy boundaries, and not feeling like a victim to the adversities that life tended to present every so often. When my mother passed away on Christmas Eve of 2012 I made a conscious decision to reflect on why I struggled so deeply with these things. I started seeking out the answers and taking responsibility over resolving those challenges in my life. Eventually this led me towards overcoming those obstacles and I started finding a great sense of fulfillment as well as purpose in helping others when it came to their own issues. The thing which I was particularly good at was helping people to navigate the way in which they relate to others (romance, friendship, familial) and their self. As I acquired various tools for aiding others in these areas there was one predominant skill which elevated itself above the rest and that was advanced conversational hypnosis. For me the act of using my past pain to help heal others is a way of redeeming my suffering. I have a mantra that I say to myself and it’s this “you had to be wounded deeply to heal the wounded deeply.”

Alright, so for those in our community who might not be familiar with your business, can you tell us more?
As a certified clinical hypnotherapist and coach I help people rapidly recovery from their breakups, develop a more secure attachment style, as well as mend their relationships (when possible) through the use of advanced conversational hypnosis. I’m most proud of being able to save relationships when possible (I recently helped a married couple that was on the verge of divorce) and help people to transition out of toxic relationships where they find it to be tremendously difficult to do alone. It feels exciting and fulfilling to play a positive role in the lives of others, especially when it comes to transforming entrenched patterns of behavior that keep people stuck in unhealthy relationship dynamics.

The way that I got to where I am with my business today was out of necessity. In April of 2023 I traveled to Mongolia where I proposed to my now wife. I returned to Los Angeles in late April then after two months I had sold everything and made the decision to move to Mongolia to be with her, get married, and remain until her visa is approved so we can come back to Los Angeles together. I started my business remotely to be able to take care of my family, working online to help people across the world. There have been moments where it’s been easy and there have been moments where it’s been difficult. Each challenging stage has allowed me to experience growth in different ways, specifically in the realm of self-management. When you don’t have someone to answer to it becomes crucial to learn hold yourself accountable and live in integrity.

I was able to find something incredibly fulfilling for myself because first I sought solutions to my own problems and then I was able to help others with theirs. As I bridged the gap between academic knowledge with personal and professional experience I was able to find something that I was truly passionate about. I think this is something that just about everyone can do when we’re willing to confront the obstacles that life puts before us. The challenges and adversities we come to face not only transform us, but can light a fire within us when it comes to finding meaning in our lives.

If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
If my friend was visiting for a week long trip to Los Angeles, we’d definitely have to visit the Griddle Cafe for breakfast in the morning and I mean every morning (the food is that good). Assuming this is a warmer time of the year, spending time at the beach is a necessity. If we’re looking for more beach town vacation vibes then I’d take them to Manhattan Beach, if we wanted something a little more secluded then El Matador in Malibu, but if we were desiring something a little more touristy then Venice Beach as well as Santa Monica Beach are great. A visit to LACMA and the La Brea Tar Pits is something that I think is enjoyable for an out of towner. There’s an endless number of restaurants that can be enjoyed. I always enjoy a good surf and turf or steakhouse like Morton’s or BOA. There’s some wonderful places to go out in nature and hike like Los Lioness, Red Rock Canyon, and Malibu Creek State Park. There’s also a lot of great music venues with incredible artists that tour Los Angeles frequently. Last, but not least there’s always Universal Studios, Disneyland, and California Adventure Park.

Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
There are many people who have guided me throughout my life and I’m fortunate that they came into my life when they did. When I was child, especially before the age of 9 years old I felt so lost. The irony is in the fact that after the age of 9 I entered into the foster care system in Florida where some very significant figures entered my life. I found a hero in the famous late martial artist Bruce Lee. I drew to him because I thought he would be someone that I’d like to be like. As a result I ended up getting into martial arts, developing an interest in philosophy, and found my initial steps into self-development.

Another person who played a significant role was a history teacher of mine in middle school named Mr. Peldunas. He probably saved my life. I was deeply depressed from my mom abandoning me and my father being absent from my life because I was in the foster system. Mr. Peldunas managed to work things out so that I could spend time outside of my group home with him on the weekends. I think just that small act of kindness probably shifted my life in ways that I couldn’t possibly fully grasp. There’s so many others I could thank as well such as Chris Morgan, Jacob Atchley, the Venerable Abbott Shi Yan Fan, Master Choung, my brothers (Mark, Steve, and Mitch) and my sisters (Robin and Charlotte). There’s countless others as well, far too numerous to name here. I wouldn’t be who I am without their gentle nudging in a healthier direction, their wisdom, or their kind words of encouragement.

I will say the person who played the most significant role in my life is my wife, Shuudertsetseg. Without her I wouldn’t be the man I am today. My relationship with her absolutely transformed my experience of love and life. I used to have a very difficult time feeling that sense of warmth in my chest when seeing family members or people I cared about. It was difficult opening up in that way. She helped me to see what love could be and inspired me to continue improving myself. We’ve been in a relationship for nearly 3 years now and married for a little over year at the time of writing this. When you find the right person it can change everything.

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