We had the good fortune of connecting with Destiny McFarlane and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Destiny, we’d love to hear what makes you happy.
Man. The concept of happiness was really a foreign idea to me. I always questioned what it was, how to obtain or if it was even obtainable, This was largely in part because I used society’s definition of happiness. Money, clothes, cars, and the works, It was then that I figured out that happiness is subjective. So for me, I’m most happiest when I can bring joy to someone else’s life. When I’m working with a client and we hit a huge milestone, or if they’ve just recently committed to their overall health and wellness. So my happiness comes from the joy that I’m able to instill in other people. There’s no other feeling like it. It’s a truly selfless sort of happiness.
What should our readers know about your business?
Being in business for yourself is so liberating. You do what you want, on your time, and play by your rules. While all of that seems amazing it’s defiantly not easy. The proudest moment that I’ve had so far is actually getting my business started. There were so many doubts that crept into my mind about starting my business -like there are many fitness instructors why would someone want to work with me- but then someone shared the analogy of bread. You see so many different brands/types of bread when you walk into the store yet there are companies that still produce the product, Regardless of how many people are already doing it. What I took away from that is how do you set yourself apart from other coaches, what makes me special, how can I retain clients and keep them coming back.
For me what sets me apart is my ability to just relate to people. I pride myself on being a people person, being able to connect to people and their stories as well as their reasons for wanting to lead a healthier lifestyle. It’s about helping others see their potential and capabilities. That’s the beauty of it all. Being a fitness coach. The look that I see from clients when their results start to show is amazing. It’s my dedication, consistent motivation, and my ability to keep them encouraged when they feel like the finish line is far. But I always tell them, “you’re closer to the finish line than where you were when you started. Don’t look back now”.
What I want people to know about me and my brand is that I’m a person that cares. More than anything I love to see people feel good about themselves and love the skin that they’re in. It’s not about money for me. The joy that I’m able to bring to people is priceless.
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
Man there are so many hidden spots in my hometown of Philadelphia.
If my best friend came into town,
We’d check out Green Eggs Cafe. Their food is so delicious and you get the bang for your buck when it comes to their portion sizes. My favorite dish on the menu has to be their red velvet pancakes.
Next, we’d visit the famous South St. There are just so many storefronts to try that it’s hard to just condense it to one choice but if I had to we’d stop by my favorite place to get drinks which would be Fat Tuesday’s. They’re very creative with their beverages and the atmosphere is a really cool vibe. The best time to go is during the June/July months, the entire city is out and you can just feel the energy of the city.
After drinks we’d have to visit Harbour Park, it’s right by the waterfront, depending on the season you can find hammocks, mini arcades, and food trucks with delicious snacks like my personal favorite funnel cakes! If we were in the mood for a more adventurous afternoon then we would head over to Dillworth park. One of my favorite activities is roller blading and Dillworth has that plus many other cool attractions right in the heart of Center City Philadelphia!
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
There are so many people that have helped me get to where I am in life. My mother, for instance, played a huge part in the person that I am today But if I had to shout out someone that grew my love for fitness and well-being it would be Coach Kyle Adams. I played under Coach Adams on the Women’s Basketball team at Cheyney University for three years. Through our time together I learned to move with confidence, not just on the basketball court but in life. He taught me to always be the first one to help my teammate off the floor, which is simple when you think through a basketball lens but in life, it means to reach back and give to others. If you’re going to spend time putting in 100% for your craft then what are you doing it for? Back then I didn’t do the work off the court for me to be better on the court but as I’ve grown into a young adult I realize the importance of putting in work when no one is watching. That’s all thanks to Coach and his leadership. This is the mindset that I try to instill in my clients, as well as those that are under my direct leadership. Life is all about putting in 100% in every aspect.