We had the good fortune of connecting with Jazmyne Futrell and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Jazmyne, looking back, what do you think was the most difficult decision you’ve had to make?
To let go of other’s opinions. To do what I feel is the right thing for me and my family no matter if I have the support of others. For all too long I held myself back and didn’t pursue my dreams / desires because that wasn’t what I was supposed to do. Per society, me being a mom means my kids come first. My family is my new dream, the old me has died. And I let that mentality keep me from doing more. From chasing after the things I loved. For far too long, because I didn’t want others to judge me. Others opinions had me in a choke hold for my entire life, it was my safe space. Doing what I knew would make others happy, what others thought was appropriate is how I made myself happy. And changing that, finding a new way to be happy was the hardest thing.
Let’s talk shop? Tell us more about your career, what can you share with our community?
In a world where social media is packed with picture perfect homes filled with color coordinated families I strive to be unapologetically raw. I use my platforms to show real life motherhood. The ups and downs of motherhood. The mental health issues I’ve suffered from, issues in my marriage. The good the bad, all of it. It’s been an extremely hard journey, but it’s been so therapeutic as well. While many may not agree with using social media as the platform to work through and heal from trauma its been surprising helpful for me. Im able to speak on whats going on in my life, with real and raw emotions in that moment. And it’s post like that, it’s captions filled with my truth, that have helped so many. I’ve received countless DMs from other women thanking me for my honestly. Mothers have sent voice notes crying hysterically because they finally feel seen, and heard. So while I’ve also received threats, people saying things like they are going to get my kids taken away. Or Im a horrible mother or even a horrible human being, knowing how many more people I am helping out weights it all. And honestly, the negative only pushes me to be more open. More honest. In hopes that it pushes others to do the same. So we can normalize normal. We can start to see life for what it truly is and celebrate that. Instead of hiding anything we think others won’t approve of.
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
Southern California is such a beautiful place. From the beaches, to the dunes, theres so much to do so I wouldnt want to leave it to just one city.
I’d start with a trip to down town LA for some fun and interesting shopping. Im a huge fan of all the little mom and pop shops you can find along the alley so we’d have lunch there. Milli’s Cafe is a must for breakfast.
Heading to the beach is always a given but driving to Santa Barbara to see the white sands is a must! And of course we’d stay at Hotel California while there. Its a beautiful place with some wonderfully interesting historic features. The hotel restaurant is amazing and perfect for dinner.
Can’t leave out Riverside. The Mission Inn is another amazing placed filled with such wonderful history. From there we’d spend the afternoon hiking to the top of Mount Rubidoux Trail.
And I’d finish the trip in San Diego. Breakfast at Urban Solace, hopping on a boat for a quick whale watching session before heading to snorkel. and of course we’d hit the zoo up!
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
There are so many people that have helped me along my journey, from friends to family and even complete strangers. Saying a kind word when I was at my lowest and maybe they didn’t know. Holding the door open for me when my hands were full. Little things like that truly meant the world to me when I was on this journey. There were some dark days and having just a little sliver of light brightened them up. But to be more specific, my husband has been my main support. He’s my rock. Outside of him, friends like Londyn Douglas who believed in me when I didn’t even believe in myself. We’d sit on the phone for hours brainstorming ideas for each other’s businesses. We’ve pulled each other out of some dark places. The same can be said for my older brother, Andre Franklin. He’s given me so much business advice. Walked me through how to handle situations in a more professional manner and just taught me how to look at things for different perspectives. Because it’s not always about money, or what someone can do for you in that moment. Sometimes having a favor in your back pocket is ten times more valuable.
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