We had the good fortune of connecting with Kesandra Lyman and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Kesandra, what’s one piece of conventional advice that you disagree with?
“Don’t mix business with pleasure.” I’m not sure who coined that phrase but I want to ball it up and toss it out with fondant wedding cakes (gross)! One of the most satisfying things is experiencing the service of someone who finds great pleasure in their work and wants to extend that feeling of delight to their clients and colleagues. I am very lighthearted and generally in a jovial mood. When choosing my career path, my number one goal was to immerse myself in a business that would allow me to have fun, laugh, and play around. As a wedding professional, I get to do that every single day. Weddings are a celebration of a pivotal moment in your life, and I strive to bring a sense of cheer to what can easily turn into a stressful, serious, and antiquated occasion.
Alright, so let’s move onto what keeps you busy professionally?
Planning a wedding can be an intense, emotional, and many times frustrating experience. The actual wedding day is usually chock-full of activities with family, friends and guests. However, during the wedding, there is a brief moment in time, where everything fades into the background. It’s only the couple, holding hands and sharing their vows to each other. This moment is EVERYTHING. I create custom ceremonies for couples, centered around this moment, that are tailored to suit their personalities and showcase what this commitment means for them.
I’ve always had a passion for weddings. Growing up, I would watch with the biggest smile and tear-filled eyes as couples declared their love before family and friends. Being both a wedding officiant and a bridal stylist gives me multiple perspectives on the total process of wedding prep. Choosing a bridal gown is typically one of the first tasks to complete on the checklist so it gives me the opportunity to be there for the bride throughout her journey. It is not always fun and laughter. There can be many tears and moments of doubt. I learned to keep a pack of tissues handy! I’ve also learned that at the end of the day, a bride just wants to feel beautiful and confident in her choices. I am most proud of my ability to instill a sense of calm and be a helpful advisor to her on the road to ‘I do’.
Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
There is no shortage of great spots in and around New York City.
•#1 on the list is the Brooklyn Promenade. It’s a must see at night time. You can take in the glorious Manhattan skyline,
Brooklyn Bridge, and Big Dipper all at once. It’s romantic and magical (and you just might catch someone popping the
•Lokal Mediterranean Kitchen is low key bistro near Columbus Circle where you can get delectable eats. My faves are the
Lamb Chops and Cheese Pastries.
•NoMo kitchen serves up delicious cocktails (and mocktails!) in a picture worth setting
•The Museum at FIT always has eye catching exhibits showcasing both students works and donated pieces
•Last but not least we would have to head to Broadway to catch a show. I’ve never been disappointed
Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
I absolutely have to shoutout my friend Purple Moore whose love and grace gave me the courage to embark on this journey. She has a strong, yet gentle presence that has the power to bring out the best in everyone she encounters. One summer, I happened to attend a women’s wellness retreat where she was a facilitator. From the moment I met her she spoke to me about my innate power and a legacy that had been passed on to me from generations. I was timid and uncertain about what to do in my career or how I could use my skills and talents to help others. I had become an ordained minister many years ago (I’ve always loved weddings) but those credentials were on the back burner getting dusty. It was a dream deferred that I honestly thought I would never pursue. Purple casually found out that I could legally officiate weddings and came to me saying that I am the embodiment of love and she asked me if I would do the honor of performing her wedding.. I couldn’t believe it. It was so shocking to me that she would trust me to carry out such a momentous task. Although, I was terrified, I accepted the challenge. The experience completely changed my life and opened up a whole new world for me, an incredible path full of excitement and glamour (two of my favorite things)! I’m forever thankful for Purple and her belief in me.
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