We had the good fortune of connecting with Nina Randolph and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Nina, is there something that you feel is most responsible for your success?
I first started @iamempwr with my co-founder because we realized that having conversations with others who have experienced a form of trauma similar to our own helped us feel seen, less alone, and ultimately aided in our healing journeys. We wanted to recreate this feeling of support and community for all of those lacking the people to talk to or the words to talk about what happened to them.
Our brand makes healing from sexual and relationship trauma approachable by providing the language to talk about the full range of sexual experiences – from rape and sexual coercion, to the ones that leave us feeling icky or used, to those that make us feel safe and pleasured. But healing is multifaceted and involves not just the experience itself, but also our relationships with ourselves, our partners (past, present, and future), our families, and with sex as a whole. The success of our brand lies in the truth that everyone is healing from something and we are able to curate our content to meet them wherever they are in their healing journey.
Can you give our readers an introduction to your business? Maybe you can share a bit about what you do and what sets you apart from others?
Within the advocacy space for survivors of sexual violence, we most often see activists creating spaces for survivors to tell their story or fighting legal battles for individuals or changing policy as a whole. What is lost in this traditional way of thinking about survivor advocacy is the ongoing healing of the survivor – what happens after they share their story, come forward, or win (but all too often, in our current criminal justice system, lose) their case?
We realized that no one was talking about how to rebuild relationships, reengage in healthy sexual activity, or reestablish trust from the perspective of having been through it. In creating this account, we chose to focus on the process of moving forward. We built a community around ongoing relationships and support systems that are with you for the immediate aftermath, the breakthroughs, and the inevitable setbacks months and years later.
In posting everyday, this account has, at times, functioned as a journal documenting my own healing journey. I create a post based on a conversation I had or a feeling I felt that day, and in allowing others to see me, I, in turn, allow them to feel seen.
This community has taught me endlessly about myself, but to keep it to a brief list:
I have learned that forgiveness is freedom – whether you are forgiving yourself or others.
I have learned that language is power. When we provide it, we give voice to those who have been silenced. When it is manipulated, it can minimize the truth and invalidate entire existences.
I have learned that vulnerability is hard but can give us richer relationships than we ever thought possible.
Above all, I have learned that I am human, I make mistakes, I take accountability, and I love.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
My favorite part of about LA is the energy of creativity and the beauty of the landscape. To soak it all in, I would take them to: 310 Coffee because caffeine is a must, La Boheme for brunch on beautiful velvet couches, Temescal Canyon to hike with ocean views, Fairfax Flee Market for unique finds, and M.i’s Westside Comedy Theater for a guaranteed laugh.
Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
This shoutout is dedicated first to my co-founder, Isa – this page could not exist with out you. We have been through the joy, the frustration, the burnout and the gratitude that comes with advocacy together. Thank you for continuing to give me the energy to fight for the safety and the pleasure of others.
This dedication also belongs to all of those within the @iamempwr community who uplift me and remind me why I do this everyday.