We had the good fortune of connecting with Novalee Wilder and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Novalee, what’s your definition for success?
My definition of success is taking action on your dreams, consistently, relentlessly, and with as much confidence as possible. Only allow yourself to evaluate and measure your success externally for a few moments at a time. Spend the majority of your creative process inside of your own world without regard for any outside gaze. Inspiration has to find you working as Picasso said and as long as you engage with and keep exploring your own point of view the opportunities to share it will arise. Question the rules you live by often. Give yourself permission to break the rules of your gender, family, business, class, field of study, etc. Shake up the vision you have of success and what it feels, looks, tastes, and sounds like. Success is a feeling and you don’t need to hit external goals to experience it. Success for me is linked to the core values I believe in and want to pursue so I’m careful not to take advice from people whose life and values are vastly different from my own. They might value security where I want freedom. I strive to make both the 5-year old and the future 75-year-old version of me happy and proud. It’s rare that anyone will thank you for pursuing your dreams, so the fulfillment has to come from inside of you. If you want to prepare for success then adaptability is the best way to get lucky and hit that flow of alignment.
Alright, so let’s move onto what keeps you busy professionally?
I do something super niche which is helping people change their name through numerology. While I also write books, teach and share about all the different ways numerology can support us, the core of what I do is name change and helping people reclaim their power and agency in the world. I didn’t set out to work in a spiritual field and always thought that my previous training and work in the arts and as an actress would be the only path for me. But my own name change awakened a passion and talent for working with the numbers and clarified intuitive gifts that I previously thought were just part of my quirks. I find that it’s always easier to keep going and build momentum on an idea than it is to stop or pivot. My philosophy is simply to put one foot in front of the other and just take the next step forward, whatever that may be. I also know that I’m extremely impatient and curious so I reframe any ‘is it worth it?’ thoughts into the question of ‘do I want to continue?’ I’m more scared of losing out on experience than making the wrong decision. If I could share one thing with others then it’s that nothing is set in stone. You can change your circumstances, mind and direction again and again if you’re not where you want to be. Life is about creation and your identity and name can be part of that.
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
For a visiting friend who’d never been to the city before I would want to give them the quintessential LA experience. We’d take a Sunday stroll, enjoy the buckwheat pancakes at Cafe Gratitude for brunch, walkthrough Larchmont Village for coffee at Go Get Em Tiger, ice cream at Salt & Straw and explore the farmers market’s samples and fresh produce. Then I’d take them on a Paramount Studio Tour in their little carts, it’s fun and less of an ordeal than other studio tours. We’d get lunch at Shyo Original Ramen on Melrose. Then a day devoted to hiking and either seeing the Hollywood sign or Griffith Observatory at sunset. I’d take them on a day of shopping on Abbot Kinney Blvd before hitting the beach and finishing up picking our favorite dream houses on the Venice Canals Walkway. Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
My success will always be tied to how much I can pass on in terms of support and impact. I donate part of my proceeds to One Tree Planted (https://onetreeplanted.org/) They are an environmental charity, dedicated to making it easier for individuals and businesses to give back to the environment, create a healthier climate, protect biodiversity and help reforestation efforts around the world. All by planting trees!