We had the good fortune of connecting with Scarlet Stoker and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Scarlet, as a parent, what have you done for you children that you feel has had the most significant impact?
The most important thing I think my husband and I have done for our son has been exposing him to the whole world in all the ways we can and being open with him about everything. He’s not even 3 yet and he eats chicken tikka masala and counts to 10 in Spanish. He shakes his hips while singing, “ice, ice baby,” and shouts, “C’mon Carson,” when we watch Eagles games. He picks oranges from the tree in our yard to eat and wants to share pieces with anyone around him. He knows his uncle has a boyfriend, and they love each other like momma and daddy do. He loves Jock Jams radio on Pandora. He calls our cat and dog his sisters. He also thinks all of our friends were his friends first and we are lucky to have friends from all different backgrounds, ethnicities, sexual orientations and of different ages. We have always spoken to him like he’s a grownup and make him a part of the conversation. Sure, we simplify terms and make the subject matter more kid friendly at times, but we always tell him the truth. Earlier this year, with COVID and protests going on constantly, we would turn the news on and talk about things as a family. It may have sounded like, “those people are very upset that someone they cared about was hurt…police officers are here to protect us, but sometimes they make mistakes…we need to wear our masks because there are yucky germs in the world right now,” but no matter what we try to be as honest as possible with him. We let him try anything he wants to. He wants to dip his finger in the spicy mustard, ok. He wants to do pullups, let’s go. We let anything and everything be an open door, a topic of conversation. Now the, “why?” phase may be driving us crazy, but we want him to always be curious. It’s funny when he asks a question and sometimes I have to honestly say, “I don’t know buddy,” because parents do not know all the things. I hope he always looks to try and do new things. As a parent I will do my best to keep opening doors for him and instill the mentality that if you don’t try, you won’t know. If you have a question, let’s find an answer. If something is different or confusing, let’s learn and figure it out.
Can you open up a bit about your work and career? We’re big fans and we’d love for our community to learn more about your work.
I am an actor. I live in LA so that’s not that special right? I think for me, I understand what I bring to the table. I don’t really buy into “Hollywood.” I know I’m not really a leading lady. I know I’m only so willing to give up my athletic side for acting. I don’t need to walk red carpets, wouldn’t say no, but I enjoy acting because it’s fun. If I make a lot of money, have my picture on billboards that’s awesome, but that’s not why I do it. My acting coach would always struggle putting me next to guys in class because my arms were more toned than most of them. Sorry I’m not sorry. I’m basically 50% athlete, 50% actor. That’s just who I am. I’m proud to have met a number of like-minded people here in LA. You never know here, but I’ve been really lucky to befriend people who just want to make something cool, or take awesome pictures, whatever the case. I’m proud and excited to be a part of these people’s stories and for them to be a part of mine. How did I get here? I started acting when I was 4 years old at a community theatre in my hometown and at some point decided I always wanted acting and performing to be a part of my life. When I realized I could combine my athletic life and acting life with stunts and stage combat, that was a dream come true and it’s my favorite when I can do that. One of my most favorite projects was a commercial shoot in NYC where I was hired because I was a female soccer player. To this day, the 4 days on that shoot are some of the best days of my life. Getting where I am today, basically living my life, which is never easy ha! I moved to LA to pursue acting and found out I was pregnant, That was hard because other life things had kept me from moving to LA sooner and it was like, “I’m here, but I’m still waiting to try!” I don’t say “life things”negatively. I chose to play soccer in college, I met my husband there. I chose to move to Florida and work at Disney. My husband and I chose to move to Shanghai, where I actually got to be in two theatrical productions and do multiple fitness modeling projects. So when I say “life things,” it is all things I am grateful for getting to experience and I wouldn’t be the same without them. I wouldn’t call any of them challenges. When you’re a kid and you come up with dreams and goals, you never factor in meeting the love of your life or having the opportunity to live cool places. It’s as simple as, “when I grow up, I want to be a movie star,” but life sometimes has other awesome plans for you and that may change your timeline and even alter your goals a bit. Lessons I’ve learned? Putting yourself out there in auditions and self-tapes. It’s not easy, but it is what actors do. I think my athletic background helps because I’ve developed a thick skin. Sure if I don’t get a role I go for I’m bummed, but it doesn’t break me down. I’ve also learned that unfortunately, Hollywood is an industry that usually wants “what sells” and sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and let things go. I’m not very good at that, but trying to be better. I want the world to know anything about me that it wants to know. I’m Scarlet. I’m a mom, wife, actor. I’ve got 4 tattoos. Tore my right ACL and have old lady pains sometimes. I LOVE holiday themed socks and look forward to every holiday all year long to wear them. I’m a beer girl. I’m a snob about cheesecake. I’m more likely to sit and want to watch the Disney movie longer than my kid wants to. I love the Rock, in a platonic, “I think he needs a tiny white girl side kick,” kinda way. I love Converse shoes. If my phone or laptop or the tv isn’t working I freak out and need my husband to fix it. That’s me.
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
Trick them into coming babysit while I go out? Just kidding…sort of. It’s funny, 2020 was actually the year our son was a great age for us to go out more as a family to restaurants, any place really… Well any friend of mine knows they’ll probably have to come workout at my gym. I work at F45 Arts District and it’s a huge part of who I am. It’s my fitness family. I would want to share that with any visitor. We would of course go to the beach. Santa Monica pier and Muscle Beach are touristy, but if requested we would go there. We have really loved going down to the peninsula in Long Beach or Manhattan Beach. It’s just a little more low key, which is nice with a toddler. Eats. Sadly as newer parents we weren’t going out a lot to try different places. However, right by my F45 is Edibol, with these cheesy biscuits that are to die for, so let’s get some of those. Then let’s head to Boo’s to get some legit Philly cheesesteaks. My husband is from PA and we lived in downtown Philly, so we mean it when we say it’s damn close to the real thing and delicious. The taco truck that was down the street from out apartment in Ktown was inexpensive and always on point, so finding a good taco truck would be on the to-do list. In n’ Out is a CA visitor staple. We love The Grove. Something for everyone, it’s open air and you can just walk around. Have a burger, a donut, an ice cream, some gumbo, do some shopping. A hike for sure. We don’t have a favorite. Usually people who come to visit want to do the, “Hollywood sign one.” I like Runyon, and Griffith Park, but again, outside, physical activity, let’s go!
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
Who deserves recognition in my story? Gosh, my own parents, who showed me I could try anything, do anything, as long as I was happy, they would love me no matter what. My husband. He pushes me, even when I push back. He believes in me and supports me in my goals and dreams. My son. His love, it’s the encouragement you never knew you needed until you become a parent. I am thankful to have a group of friends from all different walks of life that have all impacted me in one way or another. Maybe someone pushing me to be more creative and write more. Or a fellow trainer friend inspiring me to try something more challenging in my own fitness goals.
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