We had the good fortune of connecting with Antoinette Spoliansky and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Antoinette, what’s your definition for success?
Success is entirely personal. I think what success means to one person is completely different from what it might mean to another person. I used to think success was found in money and notoriety, then had both, and realized that wasn’t the answer. A part of me is still searching for the missing pieces of the answer to this question, and I can’t help but wonder, if we all will always be searching in some way for parts of the answer to this question as we grow older and wiser.

For now, what I define as success is personal peace, and knowing that everyday I’ve done all I can do to succeed that day. Success to me is pushing myself past my comfort zone, and knowing no matter the results of the endeavor, that I did all I could do to succeed in that given situation, and knowing that I followed my instincts. For me, success is defined by the efforts put forth, not the results of the venture.

Being able to lay down at the end of every day and say either “I did my absolute best,” or “I did the best I could do today given my mental and emotional capacity,” is success to me.

Let’s talk shop? Tell us more about your career, what can you share with our community?
I started Project V. so I could help people who are battling through the same situations I’ve suffered through myself. I’ve been a single mom since my daughter (now almost six) was two. I had her when I was 22, before I really had the chance to experience a career of my own. When I finally escaped from the abusive relationship I was in with her father, I quickly realized there was a long road ahead.

Was any of this easy? NO. This was one of the most difficult decisions I’ve made in my entire life. At the age of 24 I was solely financially responsible for myself and my little girl. I had no college degree, and a small resume from years ago that wasn’t getting me very far in todays workforce.

There were legal battles that dragged on, preschool to pay for, doctors visits, all situations that require financial stability. Mountains of debt started growing, all the while I knew that no one should ever face this feeling of fear and panic that I was living in every day. Every day felt like a struggle to fight for mine and my daughters rights.

A few trusting people gave me some opportunities that I was able to capitalize on to get myself out of the financial hole I was in. The industry I fell into reminds me that everything happens for a reason. I answered to a Craig’s List add for a personal assistant, and wound up getting into the world of business development and product procurement.

Through helping other people develop their brands, I realized, I could do this for myself too. Having been through, and still facing the challenges of being a single mom I knew from early in my journey that I needed to find some way to help people. My day job was unfulfilling, and everyday I felt more and more compelled to do something to make a change in the world.

My daughter drew a sketch of our dog Matilda one day that she brought to me while I was in the shower. I looked at her and said “This picture is going to do big things.” I knew right then that it was time for me to act on what I’d been feeling I need to do. So, I started Project V. The sketch Violet drew of Matilda is featured on all of our product’s tags, and on some of the items themselves. A little drawing held a large amount of inspiration.

There have been, and continue to be countless hurtles to overcome. I consider myself lucky to be where I am now, though the journey is only beginning. Single moms are left forgotten and discarded. Society has taught us that once a woman becomes a mother, being a mom is her job. She’s expected to fulfill certain duties without recognition or fair opportunity. When that mom is the head of household, the emotional support, the one who wakes up and packs the lunch, drops off the kid(s), goes to work all day, leaves when it’s dark, only to rush to spend any amount of quality time she can with her kid(s) before they fall asleep, and she’s still financially unstable, there’s a big problem.

Children suffer at the hands of the court system daily when moms can’t afford legal counsel. Children go without food, clothes, and shelter. All the while, the moms working tirelessly trying to keep their heads above water. The lack of resources for single moms is truly disturbing.

Through Project V. I am aiming to not only bring awareness to a crisis, but to help women in my shoes feel a sense of hope and security. Being a mom, and a single mom at that is one of the most isolating feelings at times. But there is hope, and you are not alone.

I am excited for the future of Project V., and to see where we can go from here. I believe through donating 25% of our proceeds to charities and advocacies that help single moms, we can make a serious difference. Not one moment of this journey has been easy, but I am confident in the fact that it is, and will continue to be, worth it.

Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
I would take them to the beach, everyone loves the beach! To eat and drink, I’d have to say Verse Restaurant in Toluca Lake. An incredible dining experience and live music venue that really is an experience worth having. Hiking Fryman Canyon is something I do often as well, so we’d probably do that. The Huntington Gardens are a beautiful experience, so I’d add that in there too.

Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
I’d like to thank my past. Without the mistakes I’ve made, I’d have never learned how to be where I am now. I’d like to thank a dear friend and mentor of mine, without whom I don’t believe I could be where I am today. His wisdom and tough love has pushed me past my comfort zone and forced me to examine myself on a deeper level, and to grow. I also want to thank my friends who are my family, and their families who have taken myself and my daughter in as their own. It truly takes a village. Most of all, I want to thank my daughter, Violet. She is the the reason I have pushed myself to be the woman I am today. She is my inspiration, and my reason. Everything I do is for her. Thank you V!

Website: https://www.projectvla.com/

Instagram: project_v_la

Image Credits
Donovan Cole Violet Spoliansky-Fox

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