We had the good fortune of connecting with Elysia Skye and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Elysia, is your business focused on helping the community? If so, how?
When I began as a mindfulness consultant for global brands, the immediate impact we noticed was the reduced stress and anxiety occurring in corporate culture. This is very fulfilling because of the domino effect it has on, not just the business, but the families of the employees and their communities.
As soon as one person starts to live mindfully (more present, less anxious and in gratitude) then everyone around that person will begin to feel that way too, even if it’s just a little. It’s hard to be a big ball of stress around someone who is very calm. And being calm doesn’t mean you’re not blissed out and totally happy and psyched about life. It simply means that you pause and think about how you react and respond. It encourages kindness, compassion and thoughtfulness.
When I work with someone (regardless of if they came through their company), they learn to lead and live by example, teaching these principles to their loved ones just by being more authentically themselves in the best way possible.
In addition to helping transform people into happier, healthier humans, one of the biggest ways my business helps the world is our “cause.” My mentor taught me to adopt a cause. This means that a portion of your business earnings every month go to a charity that you care about.
Mine is dropinthebucket.org. My mission is to give $30,000 a year to this charity which will provide water and sanitation for 100 families a year and it builds a well and toilets for a school. My clients know that a percentage of their program fee is helping a family who needs water. By sharing this with them, they get to be a part of making a difference just by working with me. I also regularly support different animal charities as well as human rights.
Ideally, every business would have a social impact. This does NOT mean that the business itself is a social impact business, but to not have a charitable component to a modern day business is a missed opportunity to give back.
What should our readers know about your business?
It’s true there are a lot of life coaches out there but to stand out all you have to do is be your true self. Everyone requires support in their life and it’s important to find a coach that specializes in what you specifically want to work on. My clients are rediscovering their life purpose, seeking clarity, direction and accountability.
I designed my coaching practice around my own “living outside the box” success. “You grow through what you go through”. I beat stage-3 cancer. I married the love of my life (after countless heartbreaks in my 20’s). I have my dream job because I was willing to be uncomfortable and leave that soul-sucking 9-5 I had and create my own businesses. I required more from where we lived so we packed up our shabby apartment and bought a gorgeous home (and three rental properties) – all before I was 36 years old.
I am not trying to brag – I want to inspire you. If I can do it, you can do it. I did not come from money. I was a bartender and an actor, going from bad relationship to even worse relationship. I never put myself first and I took my physical body for granted. You don’t have to face death to decide to really live. YOU can do it now. You deserve it and you are worthy of a happy life.
I am most proud of the peace I feel every day. I used to worry about everything and everyone. When I finally “did the work” and learned to trust my own intuition, my mentors and my friends, I quickly figured out they all were saying the same powerful things and they were guiding me to create the life of my dreams and stop worrying about every f***ing thing.
Worrying doesn’t solve any problems. All it does is rob you of your joy and your peace. Easier said than done though. I studied meditation, mindfulness and intuitive development. I let go of toxic relationships and I started saying no to all the things that didn’t feel good and said yes to what felt amazing and in alignment.
It’s a lot of work to put yourself first. But it’s not selfish. It’s not too different from deciding to exercise or eat better. When you feel good you have more energy and presence to help others feel good too.
I can’t say it was easy to get to where I am today. I am a risk taker. I push through the discomfort as long as deep down something feels right. It’s tedious to buy properties and manage them. It’s a lot of work to launch a coaching business and connect with friends for referrals and new potential clients. But I’ve learned (kicking and screaming) that if you just put a few hours a day into your marketing, your people will find you.
For anyone thinking of starting any kind of coaching or online services business, you don’t have to buy a bunch of ads or do cheesy posts. I have noticed the key is just being a good person and being helpful. I spend an hour every day on different facebook groups answering questions that strangers have about the direction of their life. Sometimes it turns into client relationships, or friends. Other times I just helped someone and that feels good too.
I was so afraid of “sales” for a really long time too. But after more and more people reached out to work with me I realized I’m not actually selling anything. They have a problem, I have the solution. If our core values are a match we will work together. If you get in your head and notice fear coming up around what you’re offering then I encourage you to go back to the root of your offer and what you love about helping people. If you make it about you you’re not doing your job. So breathe through the fear the best you can and do the “sales” call, even if you’re scared. I’ve done dozens of these calls with nerves in my belly. But the families who need clean water don’t care if I’m scared or feeling like a fraud that day. My job is to be helpful and loving. I can always be helpful and loving. I only mess that up when I let fear (my ego) get in the way.
I also think it’s important to know that you can’t help everyone. You won’t be a match for every client and you shouldn’t say yes to every client who wants to work with you. If you are not the best coach for that person, trust that someone else is.
My brilliance is in helping women with an entrepreneurial spirit, who love all the “new agey woo woo energy stuff as much as I do”, get clarity on their life purpose, giving them the strategy and direction to make it all happen, and holding them accountable to do it. I have a list of requirements that I share via video when you book with me. I describe who my ideal client is “not.” This saves everyone time, All that being said, I do have a handful of male and non-binary clients but they are sensitive, intuitive and very kind but I know that I resonate most with women when it comes to communicating what I coach.
Some people are afraid to niche down, and I used to be too. I wanted to include and help everyone. But what I ultimately came to understand is that even if I could help everyone, I’m really going to do amazing, life transforming, powerful work with my niche. For example, I can help with grief, but it’s not my specialty.
I love the sushi knife analogy. Each kind of sushi knife is created for a very specific purpose. When you hire a “sushi knife” you are targeting a specific problem. If you hire a swiss army knife (or a utility knife) it’s a little dull all over but it can solve more problems slowly and less efficiently. When it comes to purpose, clarity and mindfulness, I am a sushi knife.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
I’m currently living in Nashville, TN. We love East Nashville because you get the best of everything here. It’s not just hot chicken and BBQ. We have some of the best pizza in the country at Five Points Pizza. If your group can’t decide on what to eat, go to Hunter Station and one of you can get grilled cheese while the other gets pho. You can go bowling and eat gourmet food at Pinewood Social. On Thursday nights bring your rollerblades to the pedestrian bridge and get a gorgeous view of the city.
Be sure to check out local musicians playing just about every night. Some of my favorites are Kalen Chase, Paul Bellantoni, Crimson Calamity, and Too Slim. If you’re thinking of recording your own music check out Wild Feather Recording in Hendersonville. To relax in nature, grab yourself a blow up swan and float on Percy Priest Lake. We have waterfalls and beautiful hikes within an hour or two. It really is a little piece of paradise here.
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
I want to give a shoutout to my life coach and good friend, Andrea Quinn. She is an empowerment specialist and created a women’s empowerment coaching program called “The Quinn Essentials” which are nine tools to empower you to create and manifest the life you want to live.
I began working with her in 2005, right when I had started chemotherapy for stage 3 cancer. She helped me see my true potential as a coach, a healer and as a creative person. It was her who suggested I get my life coach certification and now I’m also a coach in her program, helping so many amazing women accomplish their dreams. I love her curriculum, which pairs beautifully with mine (The Brilliance Method). I’ve learned so much from her year after year. She is truly an amazing human being.