We had the good fortune of connecting with Lauren Searles and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Lauren, we’d love to hear about how you approach risk and risk-taking

I have taken risks my entire life. I follow my intuition. I listen to an inner voice or a nudge inside that satiates my curiosity, and I tend to just go after what I want without considering risks or doubts.

I was the first in my peer group to do many things; I was a Go-Go Dancer in Denver nightclubs when I was in high school. I went to Burning Man at the age of 19 when I graduated highschool. I moved to the Bay Area after when I was 22 with $1500 in my pocket, and threw myself into my massage career. I always took the opportunity to grow and learn wherever I could.

That journey took me to moving to Los Angeles in 2010, where I started a massage collective, which was a huge risk having never worked in that city, and didn’t know how to build a new clientele base.

When I became bored with that, I took a Bondassage (massage+bondage) class, and started offering elements of bondage and kink into my sessions. I kept expanding my knowledge in Eastern Tantra, studying with Psalm Isadora for 7 years, as well as Christopher Wallis.

It was a huge leap to jump into the unknown when I wanted to transition out of my massage career and become trained in relationship and sexuality coaching.  I enrolled in a 600hr Sex, Love and Relationship coaching certification the first year it was offered by Layla Martin. It was a $12,000 program and I certainly could have found an excuse not to enroll, but my intuition was telling me THIS was the time, and I dove in head first while simultaneously going through a break up, which fueled my learning process.

I’ve also recently taken a massive risk in giving up my brick and mortar business and moved to Hawaii, and now I work 90% doing online coaching.

My life has been defined by taking risks, and listening to the voice inside of me that guides the direction of my life.

Tell us about what you do.

I offer somatic coaching for men who are ready to claim their erotic confidence by embodying their most authentic selves, forever heal from performance anxiety and have soul satisfying sex with their chosen partner(s). By participating in this journey, they can gain access to their full power, potency and purpose.

I create safe therapeutic containers for men who are ready to truly have the love they know they deserve, and are ready to partake in the deepest parts of intimacy that their heart can receive.

Oftentimes performance anxiety is an indicator that they don’t feel safe in their body, or with a partner, or aren’t able to navigate their own boundaries. ‘People pleasing’, i.e. overextending themselves to meet the needs of others, without getting their needs met in return is also a common pattern that I help men address. When men fully inhabit their own body, their erect spine, and claim their inner throne, they become sovereign unto themselves. I invite men to embody the King archetype in my work, which is another word for the Divine Masculine. The men’s empowerment movement is ready for a revival; I am most definitely here for this!

Through Somatic Coaching, and my training in Tantra and Neo-Tantra, I help men come into their full power and essence, which makes them very attractive and magnetic to the right partner.

 I’m not the first therapist they see, but when they’re ready to create a healthy and thriving sex life, including knowing their worth to receive the love and pleasure they truly desire and deserve, that’s when they find me!

What is your approach to branding/marketing yourself/your business?  

I would say never sacrifice a part of you to appease your supposed audience. Go for your grandest vision (which may change over time), but at least you are aiming for the stars!

I’ve had a few business coaches that really helped get me started, but didn’t always encourage my own True North of my soul. There were some tactics of acquiring clients that didn’t resonate or work for me. So now I am listening to  my own inner voice to discover a natural way of attracting clients. I thrive on magnetic marketing – my clients need to come to me. So any kind of marketing that makes me chase clients doesn’t ultimately work for me.  Learning how to package and sell coaching is a whole other skillset as well.

I birthed my brand Love Angel Coaching in 2018 as a way to soften my image, and appeal to a wider audience, cutting off some of my erotic flare and edge. This has stifled me creatively, and I’m now desiring to expand my brand to all that I am, and create a larger movement in the world.

In the rebirth of my new brand, Eros+Heart, I will be fully embracing my altar-ego as the Empressof Eros… This brand will allow me to be seen as a woman in her vulnerability and erotic power, and I would like to be known as an infamous erotic writer.

“…She is interested in your carnal desire, of harnessing this power so that you may inhabit Gnosis.

She bows down to the space where the immanence is illuminated by transcendence, where consciousness penetrates form.

Nothing is taboo in her realm, although she keeps her heart tender, open, a grand piano for you to play.

Whether you need to be held, ravished or nurtured, it is the energy of the Erotic, of passion and of pleasure that guides her movements, speech and impulses.

She is interested in your throbbing pulse that leads you ever deeper to your omniscient core.

It is your true essence she is after, an Empress of Light and Darkness taking you towards the nectar of Immortality, shall you wish to drink of your desires…”

It will also allow me to share the wisdom I’ve learned from both struggle and joy, and be able to shine my most authentic self. There’s nothing I want to hide from my audience. I used to write blogs about my personal sex life, and I desire an online space to be completely myself. There aren’t too many sexually empowered women out there publicly sharing their own personal experiences in love and sex, and I want to expose what would usually be a very secretive and private part of one’s life.

Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?

I used to live in Beachwood Canyon, and it’s still my favorite unknown neighborhood, even to some locals. I would start out with breakfast at the Beachwood Cafe, then walk up to the Hollywood Reservoir, and enjoy some streetfront people watching at La Poubelle. From there cruise over to Silverlake/Echo Park, hitting up Sunset Blvd for shopping, coffee and hipster sightings, then end the evening driving up to the Griffith Observatory for sunset.

Still hungry? Tacos Tu Madre is the spot for delicious taco cuisine! They’re WAY beyond your mama’s tacos! If it was a Tuesday night, the most unexpected musical experience is seeing the Toledo Show at Harvelle’s in Santa Monica. Bonus if you can get a private invite to his show at Le Petit Ermitage.

El Matador Beach in Malibu is my favorite beach spot and I love Ojai and local hot springs!

Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
I would like to dedicate this shout out to the Wild Women Mystics, Saints, Dakinis, Angels and Devas, both seen and unseen who have dared to embody the transmission of Love. To the women who rebelled against the culture and religion of their time to speak their truth, even if it meant their death. To the women who have selflessly devoted themselves to the path, even if there is no record of it. To the selfless mothers who have an infinite expanse of love for their child, and for the pain endured during birth, and for the women who choose to not give birth, and to those who have had their right to choose stripped away. To the grieving widow who has lost her one true love, and knows not how to heal other than to bow to Grace. And to that very mysterious healing force of Grace, that always finds us in our darkest moments and carries us home.

Website: www.loveangelcoaching.com

Instagram: @loveangelcoach

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/laurenhaha/

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Other: https://loveangelcoaching.medium.com

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