We had the good fortune of connecting with Lydia Kosinar and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Lydia, as a parent, what do you feel is the most meaningful thing you’ve done for them?
The most important thing that I have done as a parent in terms of the impact on my son is my emotional sobriety. In my emotional sobriety, I have learned the true meaning of self-care and self-love. The yoga studio that I attended pregnant and then when my son was an infant and began to walk was born was Two Hearts Yoga. They specialized in prenatal yoga and family yoga. The instructor is this amazing woman, Georgina, and she would say during each session “We love our kids and will do anything for them. Where we short change them is when we don’t take care of ourselves. When we take care of ourselves we are much more capable of taking care of those we love. This statement resonated with me but it was not until a few years later that I knew what she truly meant. My emotional sobriety has taught me to practice self-love and self-care from a non-egotistical perspective to serve the greater good of the universe. Through that process, I have been nicer to myself and more present with my son and other loved ones, friends, colleagues and clients.
Alright, so for those in our community who might not be familiar with your business, can you tell us more?
I am currently in private practice, specializing in personality disorders, substance abuse and addiction and trauma. I came into the world of working in therapy after my own experiences and trauma. My therapist, Joyce E. Smith, is artistic, “outside the box” (in my limited idea of what therapy was) and always wore purple. My view of a therapist was what I saw on television, you lay down on a couch, feet up and just talk, which I know works for some people. I walked into this lady’s office which was actually part of her home to be greeted with a wall of figurines, books and purple everything. This experience was so different. She utilized EMDR and sand tray work (which is where the figurines came into play), and other interventions. After my experience, I thought what an honor it would be to help someone heal from some of their most painful experiences to build their life worth living. A few months later, I was in grad school and here I am today! I utilize attachment focused EMDR, DBT and a humanistic approach to aide in my clients’ journey. I never thought that the scariest moment of my life would turn out to lead me to a very rewarding career. They say “If you enjoy what you do, you never work a day in your life” and that’s how I feel.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
Is this pre-COVID? Let’s pretend it is and there is no traffic in Los Angeles for logistical purposes. For my first ten years in Los Angeles, Griffith Park was a block away from my apartment. So this place is very place is very close to my heart. If I had a friend in the area, I would start by taking them up the trail by the bear at the entrance to hike to the top of the observatory. We would take photos with the Hollywood sign in the background. We would see Tesla’s Coil! And weigh ourselves at every planet (they have these scales inside the observatory that tell you how much you weigh on each planet). Then we would go to the other side of Griffith to the merry-go-round where Walt Disney conceptualized Disneyland. We would then find the perfect parking spot and eat French toast, bruschetta and red pepper and egg Gillette at the Kitchen in Silver Lake. We would then go to the Natural Science and History Museum to visit all the dinosaurs and pretend to be paleontologists. We would follow that up by grabbing lunch at the museum cafe and eating outside in the garden. I would then take them to the Hollywood Walk of Fame, find Chris Farley’s star and show them where I took improv classes and performed before the theater closed. Then we would jaunt over to Grauman’s Chinese Theatre, now known and branded as TCL Chinese Theatre, to compare our feet size to Marilyn Monroe’s before asking employees where Lucille Ball’s are. We would then scoot down Rodeo like Pretty Woman before going to Santa Monica Pier to watch the sunset on the Ferris wheel. We would then go to dinner at Nobu in Malibu because in this scenario, money is pretend; thus, our shopping spree that I forgot to mention on Rodeo.
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
That saying “it takes a village”, so true! I am so grateful for the numerous people that have helped guide and support me through this journey called life. My family is my rock! I grew up an only child but consider my cousins close, like siblings. I rely on several people: my business partner and friend, Elle Michel, who took me under her wing during a very difficult time in my life and has continued to be by my side; my friend, Blythe Rifkin, who also works in the field and we collaborate together on many cases; my childhood best friends, Amy, Crystal and the late Joseph Brandon Gonzales, who continued to love and support me throughout all of my shortcomings and adversities. Also, there are countless others that were so instrumental in my development. But also, my clients, who continue to inspire me everyday (you know who you are, to disclose would be a therapist’s deadly sin)!
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