We had the good fortune of connecting with Melissa Wade and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Melissa, how has your work-life balance changed over time?
Work/life balance is always tricky for entrepreneurs, especially when you are just starting a business, or even if you have been in business a while, and are are restructuring. In the beginning of every venture, you have to be willing to put in the long hours, the early mornings and late nights and sometimes you have to be willing to miss out on things you would love to do. Sadly, during the first 5 years of my business, I missed a lot. I had to prepare my family (especially my kids) for the changes that were going to happen in order for the business to be successful. During that time, I had a lot of mom guilt, I was exhausted and there were several times I wondered if it was all worth it. The mistake I made back then, was not taking time to make balance a priority. It is absolutely important to give your business 100%, however what I have learned is that it is equally important to take time for self care (even if its just 15 minutes to take a walk outside, meditate or hit the gym), genuinely connect with. your significant other and kids (if you have them), and to have a conversation about something other than your business. When I have balance in my life, I find it easier to tap into the creativity needed to move my business forward, to connect with my customers on a more personal level, and to be present in all aspects of the business.
Can you give our readers an introduction to your business? Maybe you can share a bit about what you do and what sets you apart from others?
Helping people reclaim their health naturally, build wealth, teach yoga & Pilates in addition to running an online boutique (www.melissastyletribe.com) and Facebook community (Style Tribe) focusing on Fashion, Lifestyle & Community is my passion. I am also a social media influencer, so you may see me in various ads and product reviews on YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, TikTok & Amazon.
What makes my business unique is, through our online community, I am able to really connect one-on-one with my customers. I go live on Facebook to show new products, occasionally teach yoga & pilates classes, chat about life, nutrition, women’s issues and a myriad of other topics. When a woman starts hanging out within our community, she is warmly welcomed, and it really brings me joy to see people from all over the country, who have never met in “real life”, supporting and encouraging one another. We do not tolerate negativity, put downs or body shaming.
I really take a lot of pride in helping people get healthy, feel great & be the best version of themselves! I love offering clothing that flatters ALL body types and sizes (S-3X). In addition, I also source products like custom leggings & joggers, jewelry, candles, gourmet food items, or really anything that is new, fun, cute and trendy!
It was not always easy, and I will be real, there are times it is still not easy, but here are some lessons I have learned:
1. When times get a little rough or uncertain, I like to reflect on my “why”. When you connect with your “why”, you connect with your purpose, and that usually reignites the passion you had when you first started the business.
2. Be ready and willing to change. Nothing is ever always the same. 6 months from now, your life will probably not look the same as it does today, and neither will your business! Be prepared to reinvent yourself or your business, be willing to take a look at what isn’t working, and change it.
3. Don’t be afraid to take risks. The great thing about taking a risk, doing something bold, or making a decision is this: if you didn’t make the right choice, you can always make another one! There are very few choices one can make in life that cannot be changed with another choice.
4. Ask for help. If you are stuck, it is okay to ask for help. Find a mentor, a business coach a book, an online course…something! Feeling stuck is normal, and almost guaranteed it will happen ini your business at some point (for me it usually happens a few times a year). It is a horrible feeling, and the quicker you can pull yourself out of the rut, the better!
5. Set attainable monthly goals, and a “push goal”. Set goals for your business and track your successes. Never let the week/month go by without taking the temperature of your business, and pay attention to what is working well, and what is working not-so-well.
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
Right now I am in between LA and Phoenix for my business. If my bestie is visiting me in LA, we would definitely hit up: LACMA, eat ramen and stop by Fugetsudo for some mochi in Little Tokyo, Santa Monica pier, check out all of the murals on buildings in Long Beach and of course, Disneyland! If she is visiting me in Phoenix: camping, off-roading, hiking & check out some of the speakeasies (which there are a lot of!)
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
Ahh! There are so many facets to this one. 1. My significant other, partner in crime, twin flame & ride or die, Gary Silva. He has taught me to seek adventure in some pretty amazing places I would have never dreamed and that it really IS all about the little things.
2. My yoga instructor Ram Bhakt, who taught me about seeking the truth within myself, as well as insight into the yoga sutras, which has illuminated my path, and I will be forever grateful.
3. My family for supporting me through all of my crazy ideas and adventures.
4. My dogs for teaching me the important, simple lessons in life: take time to stop and smell the roses (or something else interesting), nap when you need to, be a friend to everyone you meet, and loyalty is super underrated.
5. My friends for supporting and encouraging me, cheering me on and holding me up when I didn’t feel like I could keep going, 6. Books – A Seeker’s Guide to the Yoga Sutra’s by Ram Bhakt, Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod, and anything Rachel Hollis, Louise Hay, or Wayne Dyer.
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Professional shots of just me: Sarah Hoag Photography