We had the good fortune of connecting with Naheemah McMicheaux-McCallop and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Naheemah, how has your work-life balance changed over time?
Over time I have learned balance is a LIE, and that it’s better to create harmony rather than seek balance. As a burnout survivor and over-functioner, I used to be the poster girl for “strong, black woman”— overcommitted, overwhelmed, and constantly putting my needs last. Often, arriving home after a full day at work, I found myself stuck to the seat of my car, not wanting to go inside, fearing the “Mommy I need” entreaties. Even after braving home, I could be found retreating to the bathroom just to have a moment to breathe (Mama’s, can you feel me?). Being the CEO of my business, a leader in my family, and a pillar of my community meant that someone or something was almost always urgently vying for my attention.
My biggest lesson over recent years, which has become required during this pandemic, is that my most urgent priorities are about me, and nobody else. Thus, I began my personal self-care revolution.
While I have been at this for a while, I’ll admit that maintaining healthy boundaries and self-care still requires effort. Each day is different, presenting new challenges, yet no matter how I need to adjust to find my center of flow and grace, what remains consistent is that I prioritize daily renewal by incorporating what I call a “Divine Pause” and self-care rituals that reinforce my commitment to me.
My advice to you: make self-care the priority. If you don’t make the intention and take the time to nourish your mind, body, and spirit on a daily basis, with the things you, as a unique human being, need for optimal functioning, you will struggle to pour out into your loved ones and work from a place of abundance and energy.
For me, self-care looks like meditation, connecting with my sisterhood, journaling, taking a nap, going on a run, healthy nutrition, quiet time with God, or having a solo dance party to Beyoncé’s Black Parade. Most importantly, I give myself permission to take time out for me—to not overexert myself with an expectation to be 100% in both work and family life at the same time, all the time.
Alright, so for those in our community who might not be familiar with your business, can you tell us more?
I am the CEO of Story Inside You, LLC, a faith-based company offering coaching, workshops, and retreats that provide a safe container for WOC Executives and Entrepreneurs to unapologetically fulfill their dreams, as nourished and fully free, without sacrificing rest and self-care. As a renowned keynote speaker and Organizational Leadership Culture Catalyst by trade, I went from burnout as a corporate executive to a self-care coach on a mission to disrupt “toxic hustle culture” and to shift legacies with liberated soul-care and guilt-free rest.
The beauty of self-care is that it is an act of love and reverence to and for yourself and looks different for everyone. However, the reality is that if you do not have a Self-Care Strategy it is easy to fall into a rhythm of depletion. My Self-care Lifestyle planning sessions and F.L.O.W. Method Framework™ has become a staple in my client’s lives. It helps you to keep your peace–your flow–and live a lifestyle that normalizes self-care.
I know that the commitment to radical self-care can be quite uncomfortable at first, but so is any habit change. You got this sis! As I say to my coaching clients, “self-care is a lifestyle that feeds your soul”. Love yourself enough to leave a legacy and change the way the next generation practices self-care.
I invite all women leaders ready to start your self-care revolution journey to book a FREE 20-minute Self-Care Audit call and learn sustainable strategies to joyfully achieve peace & fulfillment in the midst of chaos and transition. http://tinyurl.
To learn more about creating a customized self-care, lifestyle strategy, the F.L.O.W. Method, or for anything else, contact Naheemah McMicheaux–McCallop, The Self-Care Lifestyle Coach here: www.storyinsideyou.com
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
If I was showing my friend around town they would have to eat at Boubofee in Long Beach, seriously one of the best places to get the Lebanese Mediterranean. If you love lamb order it you will thank me. Next, we would go to The Griddle Cafe in Los Angeles. The Golden Ticket is everything! We would have to visit Annenberg Space for Photography. Also, it is a must if visiting Los Angeles to get the Fat Sal at Fat Sal’s Deli. Last, but not least a must-see and visit is to stay at the Monterey Tides Hotel in Monterey Bay the view of the ocean is breathtaking and the ease of walking 10 steps to get to the beach from your hotel room is like no other.
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
I want to give a shout-out to my Village (my girls from college who are not just friends but family), the women in my mastermind groups, and my sisters who have journeyed with me. You are my accountability + self-care buddies, believe in me, seek to lift me up, and see the best in me. I certainly found my tribe and love you Phenomenal Queens so much!