We had the good fortune of connecting with Paola Ruiz-Beas, LCSW and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Paola, what do you attribute your success to?
The most important factor in my success is not seeking success. I have learned that it is okay to be selfish and take care of my own needs and healing journey first and the rest will unfold at its own time. I have a mentor who would say “slow is fast, fast is slow.” I interpret that as not rushing into anything rather being intentional with what wants to birth into world from the inside out. It is easy to get caught up in the quick results and fast paced society that we live in. However, in my experience, when I have nurtured myself and taken time to pause, I have been more clear about how I get to show up in the world versus what’s expected of me. I define my own success.
Can you give our readers an introduction to your business? Maybe you can share a bit about what you do and what sets you apart from others?
I recently launched my private practice called Madre Counseling. Madre means mother. The intention of my practice is to support first time Latinx Mamas that are transitioning into motherhood. I want to give women a space to speak and heal during one of their biggest life changes. I want to normalize all the triggers that come up when becoming a Mama. The birth of my daughter & the book Women Who Run With The Wolves pushed me to become licensed. I had resisted getting licensed for several years and I wanted to give up on the process. Once I surrendered to this calling, things began to unfold with more ease and grace. It has not been an easy journey at all. I am the daughter of immigrants from Jalisco, Mexico and as a first-gen Latina, who was born and raised in Pomona, and that has resulted in many barriers. Many people look down at people from Pomona and don’t expect much of us. Yet I look at Pomona with so much gratitude for teaching me the value of honesty, community, and hard work. I take pride in being from Pomona. I also think about the strength of my ancestors and the sacrifice that my parents made and I know I am blessed to be where I am today. My community and my stubbornness to prove people wrong has paved the way. The main lesson I have learned in my journey is to embrace those who came before you and who and what raised you (your foundation). When I was thinking about naming my practice I wanted it to be a word that meant strength, foundation, and the beginning and I can’t think of a better word than mother. I am who I am because of my mother and grandmothers and my daughter has shaped my life. I have deep respect for the women in my family, life, and the world. Every experience I have had in my life has shaped who I am today and that’s the space that I hold for other women in my practice.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
If my best friend was visiting the area I would take them around my family because more than likely we would have a carne asada (bbq) with my cousins on the weekend. My parents would be cooking home cooked meals and my mom would want to feed them. During the week, I would take them on a hike, to the beach, and to the art walk in downtown Pomona where we would buy hand made crafts from local vendors. We would have great conversations in coffee shops and laugh about the good times we’ve had. We would end the night with some sweetness; either buying ice cream or a pan dulce from at El Merendero. We would have great quality time together mixed with Mexican culture and the richness of community.
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
Becoming a mother transformed me in ways I never thought possible. I have a very challenging transition into motherhood and it also brought many blessings. Both realities can co-exist. Something about becoming a Mama helped me get clear about priorities, time, and living my true passion. It’s a process and it’s wisdom that only my daughter was able to teach me.
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