We had the good fortune of connecting with Shalom DeSota and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Shalom, can you tell us more about your background and the role it’s played in shaping who you are today?
I’m originally from Flint, Michigan. I grew up in a pretty unconventional household and ask a kid I moved around a lot living everywhere from the inner city to an actual dairy farm. I have 4 younger siblings and my dad always worked at least 3-4 jobs to keep us afloat. By the time I was 8 years old I knew how to structure a wall and roof a building better than most. I’d say my upbringing gave me a work ethic and a willingness to wait for results that is pretty rare for growing up during a time when instant gratification is the new expectation. You definitely become different people as you grow and learn but the core of who I am will always be from my experiences in Flint.
Let’s talk shop? Tell us more about your career, what can you share with our community?
I am an Actor – As well as a business owner which is essentially an endless world of change and constant surprises and new learning experiences. What sets me apart as an Actor besides things like my education and training is that for my age I’ve had a lot of life experiences. When I immerse myself into a character I don’t just portray how I think they should act – I work extremely hard to truly understand why this character believes and acts how they do. When you come at it from the angle of trying to understand someone else and you then use your own lived experiences to ground and understand your character it brings a life to the character that is hard to forget for both the audience and the actor. I work to portray the character not as a hero or villain but as an entire complicated person with as many thoughts and feelings as the rest of them. As a business owner I’m pretty fresh in the game but what sets me apart is that I’m not just looking to make money – thought that’s obviously a big part. But I’m also truly in my business because I want to bring other women the opportunity to make there own way through financial freedom. I want to make a real impact in others lives and help build them up. Women already have so many things against us the last thing we should have to fight is each other. There is room for everyone at the table. I’m really proud of myself for making the decision to not live an average life (if that even exists). I’m excited to see where my business with Monat takes me and all the lessons I get to learn!
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
If Simran was visiting I’d want to take her hiking up Runyon at night first because the view of the city at night from the hills is unparalleled. If we weren’t in covid I’d love to hit clubs like the Reserve because we both love dancing a ton. I’d want to explore new places with her too. We love finding hidden coves that no one else seems to know about. Honestly I’m sure we’d do a ton and enjoy the city – but even if we couldn’t leave the house it wouldn’t matter because I’d finally get to see her in person. She lives in Massachusetts and so we only get to see each other every few years now and that’s definitely hard. When you have a long-distance friendship like that it becomes less and less about what you do and more and more about getting the chance to do it with each other.
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
Wow so many people. I’m a huge believer that no person is 100% self made, we all have moments and people who shape us into the people we become. That said I have to thank my parents and siblings first. Family is complicated and never perfect but they are often the biggest defining factor in our lives. So I’m thankful for them for sure. Out here in LA I’d have to thank Rob Nagle and his wife Heather Allyn for really taking me in and being a part of my support system. Rob has truly been my acting and life mentor out here and I can’t count the times that he has literally saved my life. My best friend Simran who has been there through literally everything and is always there for me even if we don’t talk everyday. My current boyfriend Brenton has taught me a lot about my self and has been there when others haven’t. There are countless others of course even if I’ve only known them for a short period who have helped shape and define me and I’m so thankful for each of them.
Facebook: Shalom DeSota
Other: My business website is https://shalomie.mymonat.com/