We had the good fortune of connecting with Amber Krzys and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Amber, what habits do you feel play an important role in your life?
When I started my business I had no idea what I was doing. I had never taken a business class in my life. I simply wanted to help people feel good about the skin they were in. As a former Broadway performer I struggled with my body for over twenty years. I knew the pain of wishing it were different and believing life would be better if I weighed a certain number on the scale. I also knew I wasn’t alone in my suffering, so after I created a more loving relationship with my body during my Master’s Program in Spiritual Psychology at The University of Santa Monica, all I wanted to do was share what I discovered with others.
I believed the world would be a better place if more people embraced their bodies. If they felt better in their skin, they would feel more confident, happier and more at peace—and a confident, happier, more at peace person makes better aligned decisions for themselves and the world. This was the driving force at the start of my coaching practice. My mission was bigger than me.
This is the first habit that contributed to my success. I was deeply connected to my why. Because of this—because my vision was bigger than my small self fears—I was better able to take risks, manage disappointments, adjust my business model and stay in the game no matter how long it took. And, it took about four years, including landing myself in $44K in credit card debt, before I finally found my footing and made a solid profit in my work.
As wonderful as my why was, it wasn’t enough to teach me how to make money. For that, I needed outside help—which is my second habit for success. Seek support. You don’t have to reinvent the wheel and build your business by yourself. Working with someone further along will provide more grace and less mistakes.
I hired a coach, Michelle Bauman, who fundamentally changed me and my life in my time working with her. (I’d still be working with her today if she hadn’t passed away from cancer in 2015.) I went from being single with $44K in credit card debt and lots of shame and self-judgment, to meeting and moving in with my now husband, paying off my debt and generating multiple six figures. Michelle taught me the art of enrollment and how to fill my calendar with money generating activities—less social media and more heart-felt conversations. She modeled how to be a strong professional and build a thriving practice through serving one person at a time. She showed me how sacred coaching can be—how impactful and fulfilling it is to deeply know, encourage, challenge and celebrate someone.
I realized after she passed away that she loved me fiercely. It was during this time that my work expanded beyond body image into business development, leadership, relationships and life…and Fierce Loving, Inc. was born.
The last two habits for success that are worth highlighting are: 1) take imperfect action and 2) limit how long a set back keeps you out of action.
Building a business requires taking new and different action. Taking new and different action is messy. Therefore, waiting to perfect something will only hinder your progress. Done is better than perfect. Plus, action is the only way to receive feedback. You won’t know the effect of something until you put it out into the world. Only then will you assess whether to keep doing that same thing, adjust it slightly, course correct or let it go.
Disappointment is a natural part of life and business. When an action doesn’t go according to plan it’s normal to have feelings of doubt and despair. While it’s important to feel your feelings, lingering in the darkness will not move you forward. This is why limiting the ‘wallow’ time is super important. Decide on a time frame for feeling low. Two hours? Twelve? An entire day? After that time frame, get back in action. Action is the antidote for shifting your feelings.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
Eats: Katsuya—the baked crab hand rolls are the bomb!
Waldorf Astoria Rooftop Restaurant—ginger margaritas and guac and chips…plus the view is stellar!
Canyon Back Trail—off leash hiking trail for dogs we love, plus the views of the mountains, oceans and of santa monica are awesome!
Leo Carillo State Beach—off leash dog beach—to get some rays and watch the pups frolic in the water.
Venice: The canals and people watching are unlike any other.
Disneyland: Because we can!
Best Friends Lifesaving Center in Mission Hills, CA—My husband and I spent time walking dogs and enriching their lives in the shelter each week.
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
My first shoutout is already included in my story. Michelle Bauman, my dear mentor and coach. saw me and what I was capable of before I did. She believed in me—and because of that I found a way to believe in myself.
Next I would give a shoutout to my husband whose constant love, encouragement and acceptance inspires me to be a better person and wife.
Other extraordinary folks who have impacted my journey include Carolyn Freyer-Jones, Dr. Robert Holden, Dr. Mary Hulnick, Brene Brown and many many others.
Courtney Lindberg Photography: https://www.courtneylindberg.photography/ Speaking Image courtesy of Leah Rose Productions: https://www.leahroseproductions.com/ Volunteering Image courtesy of Todd Roisman