We had the good fortune of connecting with Ana Jones and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Ana, what was your thought process behind starting your own business?
This is an answer with many answers! I honestly cannot remember exactly how it happened because I made the decision during the pandemic but I can tell you that I felt like I could not put off doing what I wanted to do the most — help people integrate all parts of themselves so they can start their process of self- acceptance and forgiveness.Can you give our readers an introduction to your business? Maybe you can share a bit about what you do and what sets you apart from others?
What sets me apart from others is me. This is the truth. No one is me and I am no one else.
I have a particular way of calling my clients out with a lot of love and compassion.
They are my priority. Whenever I see my clients putting others before them I remind them that they are the one and only cause of their suffering. As soon as they choose to put themselves first, the suffering ends and the embracing of it all can begin.
One of the things that I am very proud of in my business is the way I connect to my clients.
I absolutely LOVE working with the people that I choose who I work with. It’s a relationship. We are going to be engaging for at least 12 weeks. Many coaches take on clients because they are desperate. I get it. I cannot say I have been there but I am grateful I have never discounted prices, taken on crappy clients and have kept my boundaries healthy so that as I thrive, so do my clients.
There is nothing easy about starting a business. Whoever says it’s easy is lying.
If you want to get to know yourself, start a business.
Nothing will prepare you for the ups and downs that you encounter — the moments where you have a negative balance in your bank account but there you are… trusting — yourself and divine timing.
Something I think is important for people to know about me is one of the reasons why I started my coaching business.
I see it all the time — the unhappy marriage, the judgmental human (who is actually judging what they have also done), the victim, the martyr, the complainer, the person who has no boundaries and lets everyone walk all over them…
I used to be this person.
I cheated on my boyfriend when I was 30 years old and it took me years to forgive myself.
He forgave me before I ever could.
I seldom have regrets but this one, I really wish I could have had the maturity to tell my partner at the time how unhappy I was. But I just couldn’t. I wanted him to breakup with me. So I cheated. Even then he did not leave me and things got worse. I endured the insults, the yelling, the name-calling because I thought that’s what I got for cheating. I thought to myself “I’m a bad person and I deserve to be treated this way.”
Until one day my mother said, “Ana, what you did wasn’t ideal but you are not a bad person. I think it’s time for you to get out of there.”
And so I did.
With time, I worked on myself — healing the wounds I caused not only to my ex but also to myself.
I was so hard on myself and when I speak about this now, I can tell you the story without crying. I couldn’t before.
I am so grateful that I had the support I did to get through such a traumatic event (and all the ones that followed). I wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for my mom, my friends, my coaches but mostly… myself.
I made the choice of moving forward and say YES to life again.
I regained trust and confidence in myself.
I stopped dating narcissists and am finally giving myself the opportunity to love again from a place of completion, not neediness.
This is what I hope to share with others — at the end of the day, when we forgive ourselves we can move forward and truly enjoy our lives. Everyone makes mistakes. It is important to own them and repair damages (wherever they happened) so we can love, forgive and accept all the parts of ourselves and live a beautiful life. If it’s possible for me, it’s possible for you!
Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
I would take them to my favorite coffee shop — I am a HUGE coffee gal. And depending on who they are, we would probably go to my favorite restaurants, parks and bars.
I personally think that everyone’s idea of fun is different so pull up google and explore!
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
My mom. She is f*cking phenomenal.
I wouldn’t be where I am if it weren’t for her.
She has supported me through so many tough times and even though we may disagree on certain things, we have a deep appreciation and love for each other. It’s really real and the relationship we have is authentic because we’ve worked on it!
KIA WRIGHT SAMI ANSARI