We had the good fortune of connecting with Arielle Werblun and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Arielle, how do you think about risk?
Taking risks is a concept that was once foreign to me. Having grown up in a household where fear and anxiety were prevalent emotions, stability and surviving took more precedence than did taking any sort of conscious risk (whether that be academically, professionally, interpersonally, what-have-you). The idea of pushing limits was awesome; the implementation of it, however, was another story for a long time… It wasn’t until I was in my late twenties that I realized how much risk I actually wanted to take in multiple areas of my life – professionally, most prominently – yet I was keeping myself from doing so. I had been allowing a lot of “should’s” to dictate my decisions, and I was essentially playing it “safe” in a lot of ways. I found myself with an immense amount of insight, experience, and talent that I felt was untapped in my nine-to-five job; I felt stuck. So, I took the biggest risk I’ve taken consciously by quitting my job and setting out to expand my own business as a licensed marriage and family therapist! Learning how to be a business owner is not easy, and while I never thought it would be, my taking the risk to challenge myself in this way has been the most humbling and insightful professional experience I’ve had to date. I’ve had to learn how to get comfortable with discomfort, “trust the process”, and trust MYSELF more than I had historically. With a growing private practice, a podcast underway, workshops to come, and more, I am proud to say that taking a “leap of faith” in myself and my abilities is now my most valuable asset to my success. While there are pros and cons to any type of healthy risk-taking, I would argue that there’s likely more pros to pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone, getting uncomfortable, and learning from the ups and downs of the journey (as cheesy as that may sound!). It feels pretty incredible when you learn how to get out of your own head so you can out of your own way.
Can you open up a bit about your work and career? We’re big fans and we’d love for our community to learn more about your work.
My journey as a therapist has been both challenging and powerful. I worked primarily in treatment centers as I was starting out in this career, working with people who struggled with eating disorders and substance abuse. I was also the program director for a program that worked with teens who struggled with mood disorders and behavioral concerns for a bit of time. While working in treatment centers with a treatment team was my primary focus – and it was extremely important for me – I always had an itch to focus solely on building my own practice to help people in my own way. Now that I decided to take a risk, I get to do just that! I get to have my own “niche” and specialties. I am getting creative with how I want to get my messages across. I’m working from a place of curiosity, and it’s proving to be quite exciting and beneficial. Specializing in narrative therapy, I’ve found I work best and a lot with those who struggle with imposter syndrome, people-pleasing, and codependent behaviors to strategically embrace their self-worth in healthy ways. It’s not easy, but it certainly is empowering and worth it long-term… Trust me, I’m speaking from personal and professional experience! As I mentioned, authenticity is key with me!
Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
Honestly, I call myself an introverted extrovert. I love to connect and be with people, and it doesn’t really matter to me where we are! Don’t get me wrong, I love a good brunch spot by the beach, a good hike in the mountains, or anywhere I can bring my dog… but mostly, I just appreciate a good adventure!
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
I would not have the insight, experience, or perspective I have today had it not been for certain people who saw me in a light I once wished I saw myself – and now do because they helped me do so. To those of you… you know who you are, and I appreciate you. One general source that has helped me significantly who I refer clients to constantly is Jen Sincero, author of, “You Are A Badass.” I’ve almost memorized her book’s contents at this point, and I couldn’t praise her writings any more if I tried. Give it a read!