We had the good fortune of connecting with Buffy Milner and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Buffy, can you share the most important lesson you’ve learned over the course of your career?
Don’t worry or stress about things that are out of your control. This was a big one for me. As an actor I go out for auditions all the time and once you leave the audition room or send in the self tape, the wait begins. Either you hear back or you don’t, and that wait can be stressful. It’s a lot to carry around and if you don’t hear back, after all the worry and stress, the rejection seems all the more difficult to deal with. I adopted the belief that if it’s meant for me it will be mine and I realized that worry and stress are just wasted energy, especially when the circumstances are out of my control. So now, I go out, do the audition and then let it go and focus on the next thing. That way if I do hear back it’s a nice surprise.
Can you open up a bit about your work and career? We’re big fans and we’d love for our community to learn more about your work.
What sets me apart in my art is ironically my love for lots of other things outside of my art, I started skateboarding 6 months ago at the beginning of the lockdown and for me it was something that gave me a purpose at a time when everything else in my life was on hold. It was just fun for me and I didn’t realize that it was something that could help me progress in my career but that’s totally what it has become, Its a special skill that has set me apart and I have now skateboarded in a Starbucks commercial, two music videos and a feature film. It was not easy getting to where I am today, this city is ruthless and you have to hustle and persevere to survive here. I have learned to have grace with myself and not get stuck in analysis paralysis. I have accepted that things aren’t always going to be perfect and it’s better to dive into something and give it my all right now rather then to wait for fear of not getting it perfectly right the first time. I learn from doing, from messing up and then learning from my mistakes. I have learned that embarrassment is better than regret, so to always go for it rather than miss my shot. I’m proud of the progress I have made in my career, but more than that I’m proud of the personal growth and progress I have made and continue to strive for. It’s all part of the journey to success.
Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
When my friends visit, I always start with a hike, getting them up high on a mountain so they can really take in the beauty of the city and see how much of LA there really is. Following that it’s gotta be brunch and that’s a tough one, LA has some killer brunch spots, but my personal faves are Bea Beas, Met her at a bar and Vivians, to name a few. We would hit the beaches for sure, maybe a road trip to San Diego, I like to drive by the classic Hollywood boulevard and tourist sites just because you have to see them while you are here but they are a bit to busy and touristy for me so a quick pass by is definitely enough. In the evening, there are a bunch of bars I like to go to but also I have some amazing friends here and my apartment has definitely become the hang out spot during this time. So we would probably end up chilling at my apartment or the skate park, Sheldon skate park is a vibe in the evening. LA is definitely better when you have great people around you.
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
As far as support, love and encouragement, I have been very very lucky, my mum has always supported me big time and encouraged me to follow my dreams as well as helping me massively with my move from the UK to America. My sister has also impacted my story a lot. She is an incredible singer/songwriter and her drive, commitment and go get it attitude has been very inspiring and pushed me to pursue my passion full force. When she has a door closed on her she finds a way to open another and creates opportunities for herself. It’s inspires me so much to never give up. If you want to check her out which I would obviously recommend, her name is Amy Milner on all music platforms and @spell_hope on instagram. We also just collabed on her most recent music video ‘Wildside’ which I shot and am also featured in.