We had the good fortune of connecting with Cathy Council and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Cathy, what is the most important factor behind your success?
I firmly believe the most important factor behind my success are the relationships that I have in my circle and the relationship that I have with myself. Being true to who I am has allowed me to go further and believe deeper in what I am capable of. It also helped me choose the people that I surround myself with and choose to go through life with. My success with relationship coaching is because I am a product of my product.
Alright, so for those in our community who might not be familiar with your business, can you tell us more?
As a relationship coach, I help women to create their inner circle of friendships that support, encourage and celebrate who they truly are. Often women focus on romantic relationships, finding the perfect partner, but aren’t intentional about the friendships they have or want. Too often we let friendship happen to us, instead of being intentional and creating meaningful friendships. I believe having a supporting, caring circle that you’ve cultivated is important to your well being. Your circle reflects who you were, who you are and who you are becoming.
I personally had to face that moment when I realized that my friendships were not where I wanted them to be. I found myself around people and still feeling alone and invisible. I had evolved and changed and I felt that they no longer knew me and I no longer connected to them. I took ownership for my part in the breakdown of our relationships, worked to repair the friendships I could and began to make new friends.
In starting my business, it was challenging to put myself out there and be visible when I had felt invisible for so long. I was sharing my experiences and challenges in a public way but also sharing how I learned to overcome that to have even better friendships and relationships. I realized that I had to be visible to reach the women who I knew were quietly suffering with feeling alone, without friends or a circle that they felt comfortable in.
What I am most proud about is how this work I do helps the women I coach, but also helps their circle of friends all have better relationships. They become an example for their friends of how to show up as who you really are and be a true friend.
Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
I think they beauty of spending time with friends is in the conversations and experiences you create. A week long visit would range from walks at the Kensico Dam in Valhalla, NY to shopping at outlets upstate NY, and eating at restaurants all around NYC. But most of all, my best friend and I bake cookies and talk all night, connecting and catching up.
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
I would like to shout out Patrice Washington, my coach and best-selling author and creator of the Redefining Wealth podcast. I recommend her most recent book – Redefining Wealth For Yourself – for anyone who wants to live their purpose and stop chasing money. Patrice’s Pillars of Wealth allows you to recognize all the types of wealth you have in life.