We had the good fortune of connecting with Danielle DeBay and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Danielle, do you disagree with some advice that is more or less universally accepted?
The one thing I disagree with is if you just hustle, you’ll be successful. At least not in the way that it’s typically promoted. The idea that if you hustle, success will just come. Or if you try hard enough, push hard enough, hustle enough, then you’ll reach your goals isn’t something I see working often with clients and has never worked for me personally. I believe alignment is what gets us to success. Aligning with what we love to do, what our strengths are and how each of us work best is the formula that gets us to success in our lives. I also put a lot of value on rest, which I consider to be a very active thing. Resting allows for mental, physical, and spiritual recalibration that ultimately allows us to realign, something hustling doesn’t allow space for. I have found that after resting and I feel realigned with myself, everything else comes fairly easily. There’s less push back, less resistance, less doubt, and a whole lot more doing taking place. As soon as I start to feel those things again, resistance, self-doubt, indecisiveness, that’s when I know it’s time for a rest. So the advice I would give instead of hustling is to align yourself to what you love and what you’re good at and success will find you.
Alright, so for those in our community who might not be familiar with your business, can you tell us more?
I guide people through increasing their self-worth so they experience more love in their life and business through the process of ‘Unsettling’. ‘Unsettling’ is simultaneously rejecting the status quo and choosing growth over complacency. When you consciously unsettle something, you’re making a stand against doing things the way they’ve always been done, just because that’s the way it’s always been done. It’s also an invitation to push your edges and break open the box that’s been surrounding you. I use this process for both personal and business guidance. Right now I’m most excited about my “Unsettle Your Brand” package that includes coaching/guidance sessions as well as a website. It’s all about looking at your brand as a service based business in a different way. I love bringing together the energetic and the practical work in everything I do, which is what I’ve created in this package. Though the end result is a website that aligns with who my clients and their audience are, it’s really the sessions that we have before the website is finished that make this package special to me. It allows us to get to the heart, dig into the subconscious and uncover hidden resistance and doubts that have been holding them back. I’m also really excited for the hiking sessions I do locally at Griffith Park. It’s something I’ve never seen other people doing and it allowed me to combine two things I love while also providing a service that’s both paradoxical and harmonious. Doing a hike while receiving coaching/guidance allows people to get out of their head and into their body and that’s when I notice the answers they’re looking for start to present themselves. I’ve finally arrived at this place in my business where I love everything I offer and the clients I love working with are showing up. When I started coaching and guiding people I was trying to follow some formula that wasn’t working for me. It’s a big reason why I’ve pivoted in my coaching, because I see the difference in who I’m calling in and how I’m feeling on a daily basis since I’ve been able to follow my own formula instead of someone else’s. It wasn’t easy. Only experience could have brought me to this place. What I want you to know most about me and my business is that there’s no 1 right way to live life, only a right way for you. My role as a guide in this world is to help you uncover what that is. And if you’re coming to me, most likely you know that it’s not going to be how things have been done before. I also focus heavily on love rather than fear. It’s my motivator, my religion, my teacher, and my guide. If we do things, see things, and be from a place of love, it will continue to ripple out into the world that way. That’s the type of world I want to live in, so it’s the type of world I create.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
I will start by saying I’m an Eastside native so most of my favorites are over here. My favorite place to take someone is on a hike in Griffith Park. It has one of the best views of the city and on a clear day we can see Catalina Island. It’s also a great way to see the Hollywood sign, which everyone asks for. While we’re in Los Feliz we would visit Skylight Books, have some pizza at Palermo’s and catch a movie at the Vista Theatre. While we drive around I’d also be sure to drive by Shakespeare bridge and take them by the Chandelier Tree in Silverlake before having drinks at the Verdugo Bar in their beautiful outdoor patio. Another day would be spent in downtown going to the Last Bookstore where I could spend hours perusing their huge collection of books, heading over to the Broad for some art, eating at Grand Central Market, and taking the metro to Olvera street to get some churros. One day would be spent mostly at the beach. I’d take my friend to Erehwon to pick up food & snacks before heading to Manhattan beach so we can layout, watch the surfers & walk the strand. It’s not proven but I’m pretty sure the water is just slightly warmer there. I would also show my bestie how many coffee shops are in Highland Park and do a tasting to pick the best one. My favorite is A Bloc for their friendly nature, love of the community, and because you can also get the best gluten free/vegan cookies there! A few more must sees are the Venice boardwalk for people watching, LACMA for photo ops, the Wayfarers Chapel in Rancho Palos Verdes to be surrounded by beauty, and another hike in the Angeles National Forest to get away from the city for a few hours. Some favorite restaurants to make sure to eat at are Cascabel in Toluca Lake, The Raymond in Pasadena, Little Beast in Eagle Rock, Sugarfish in multiple locations, and Amara Kitchen in Highland Park. There are so many great things about LA but the most important is being outside and enjoying the weather, so a lot of the things I do and love to show people are mostly outdoors. Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
I would like to dedicate my shoutout to my weekly sister circle. We are an intimate group of women who offer any type of support that’s needed every week. They have and continue to keep me grounded, show me what my strengths are, hear me, see me, and understand me. Those are some of the things we need most as humans and I’m grateful I get to meet with them every week to not only offer support but receive support as well in whatever way that I need.