We had the good fortune of connecting with Denise DaVinci and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Denise, what was your thought process behind starting your own business?
My thought process began with the need I observed within people around me who need to talk. Just talk. The way you talk to a friend who doesn’t judge, or compete, or tell you what to do with your life. The way you talk to a counselor, but without the conditions or cost. In some ways, I’m a natural-born life coach in that I’ve always been able to talk to people, even strangers, with compassion and empathy, while giving them a reason to believe life can be better with a new outlook and a little support. That’s what I do now; I support those in need of a little reminder of who they are, what they can be, and what they no longer need to hold on which might be keeping them from being really happy.

Let’s talk shop? Tell us more about your career, what can you share with our community?
My professional coaching practice is unique in that I bring to the table all of my life experiences; from fashion designer to Al-anon member. After many years of working in the fashion industry, I settled into working with clients one-on-one as a personal stylist and found myself doing more coaching and uplifting than telling someone simply what to wear. I believe we all have our own fashion within us and sometimes you just need someone to help you extract this personal essence and find a way to embrace your own style with a subtle practicality. We don’t all need to look like we just fell out of the pages of a fashion magazine, we only need to feel good about ourselves when we walk out the door and catch our reflection in a window.

The other component of my coaching stems from my own personal Al-anon practice. I work with clients who often don’t understand the importance of identifying their own role and responsibility of being involved with someone afflicted with the disease of addiction. Being in denial of someone else’s addiction, believing you have the right to be a victim, thinking you have the power to save them, or holding onto the misunderstanding of ones addiction just being bad behavior, which can easily be corrected, is dangerous. All of it. Though, often people are not comfortable telling their stories and talking about their feelings with strangers in Al-anon meetings, or, they’re confused by the concept of a 12-Step program being an insightful tool for those who are not addicts, so they might not get the help they need. The help they need is knowing the truth about addiction. All of it. I’m here to confidentially listen, tell you what you probably need to hear even if you don’t like it, remind you that everything you need is already inside of you, and to share support, insight, and wisdom with love as a professional life coach.

Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
As a fourth-generation Los Angelina, I often don’t realize what people are excited to see when they come to our great city because I’ve gotten used to having everything right under my nose. So, when I have visitors from out of town, I take them to the highest points on the highest hills, from Griffith Park to Culver City, and let them see for themselves how vast and unique Los Angeles County really is. From there, I can let them wander (while navigating lots of traffic!) from place to place as they discover all the amazing things our 4752 square miles cover, and share with them my personal stories and experiences from my lifetime growing up in this wonderfully eclectic city.

Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
I gained a great deal of support from my Al-anon sponsor I met in 2004. (we’ll call her) Carolina invited me to my first meeting after I discovered my sons father had a serious problem with addiction. She told me I would never have any control over my life, or my newborn baby’s, if I didn’t fully understand my role of being involved with someone suffering from this awful disease. She helped me to understand the toll this could take on me and introduced me to the principals of the 12-step program designed for those dealing with addicts in their lives. The program helped to guide me through the process of gettin my life back on track, though, this can at times be confusing, frustrating, and terribly uncomfortable- especially in a room full of strangers! As I learned to take responsibility for my place in my partners life I had to make the choice to either accept the relationship as is, or leave by detaching with love. Accepting these choices is no easy task, and I could not have found the strength I needed to move forward and thrive if I had not had the support of my Al-anon sponsor, Carolina, whom I am forever grateful to as I work to pay her wisdom forward through my writing and coaching.

Website: denise-davinci.com

Instagram: ddavinci.la

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Image Credits
ILANA REIN C. MATHIS D. DAVINCI

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