We had the good fortune of connecting with Grace Getzen and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Grace, where are your from? We’d love to hear about how your background has played a role in who you are today?
My upbringing was centered around personal responsibility. I grew up in a tiny town in Massachusetts. Because our town was small and safe I had complete autonomy. As long as my responsibilities were met my parents trusted me to make good choices and care for myself. I ran wild, played wherever I wanted, rode our horse all over town, and only came home when the street lights came on. I lived fully in the now, with an exquisite presence. These freedoms, among many others, fostered independence at an early age. I learned to take risks and trust my gut before I even knew what intuition was. One other major influence in my background was having brain surgery to remove a tumor at the age of 15. The experience was traumatic and scary. It created a huge paradigm shift in my personal operating system. I realized most of us take life for granted, rarely thinking about its brevity. This epiphany radically shifted my priorities. I gained an appreciation for the small things that make up everyday life and gratitude became a daily practice. Growing up with independence and undergoing traumatic surgery gave me the confidence to move out into the world at a younger age than most. I learned to recognize opportunities when they showed up. Coupled with the moxie I developed from being left to my own devices, I was able to act upon those opportunities quickly and decisively. It never occurred to me that I couldn’t do anything I wanted to do, no matter how unconventional. If I wanted something I knew it was up to me to attain it using my own creativity and powers of manifestation. Since my mindset was that anything is possible, I created the life I desired – doing what I wanted. If I didn’t like how something was going I had to look within to see how I contributed to my current state and then change it. When I review inflection points in my life I see a pattern consisting of the same 4 things – an innate ability to stay present, belief that everything is connected, an ability to manifest what I desire, and a profound sense of gratitude. These qualities led me from receiving an anonymous invitation on the streets of Boston to join a dance company, to moving to New York City on short notice with only $600 in my pocket and no job to take advantage of a dance scholarship I was granted after crashing an audition on a dare for a world-renowned dance company. From there I moved to the West Coast impetuously following my heart. I have countless examples of successful risks I’ve taken and the opportunities I manifested throughout my life. I credit it to my childhood freedom and brush with death. I look forward to more challenges and creating new directions. It’s the spice of life!
Can you give our readers an introduction to your business? Maybe you can share a bit about what you do and what sets you apart from others?
What sets my coaching practice apart from others is my chosen niche and my execution style. Most relationship/life coaches focus on general issues. I have honed my coaching approach to focus on issues dealing with the 5 levels of intimacy by embracing conflict and creating a stable environment for a fulfilling relationship. My approach utilizes empathy and humor while developing the necessary skills for open communication. I employ a high level of personal accountability with my clients which gives them back control of their lives. It really lights me up to help people deepen their relationships by learning how to embrace vulnerability and intimacy and do conflict like a rockstar! I especially love working with men on increasing their skills in the romance department by giving them tools and resources, which in turn creates more opportunity for a fulfilling sex life. This creates more affection and appreciation from their partners. It’s all about discovering the ingredients for a win-win formula. I got to where I am today through years of transitions and personal growth. I appreciate being challenged to continually expand my capacities and stay open to infinite possibilities. I would take crazy risks like applying for a job I didn’t necessarily think I would get or was qualified for and then getting it. Doing so forced me to step up to the plate and shore up any areas where I might be lacking. It was hard and easy at the same time. The risk taking was the easy part… learning how to truly bring my A game and feel worthy of the job was hard. I overcome challenges by sheer perseverance and learned resiliency. I discovered that the most powerful person in any room is the most vulnerable. (Thank you Brene Brown!) By this I mean that by being vulnerable one must be open and authentic. Showing up exactly as who you really are is powerful because you have nothing to hide. It requires confidence and self-love. One of the most important lessons I learned along the way is to not compare my insides to another person’s outsides. I know that I have no idea what may truly be going on inside another person, even if their life looks perfect on the outside. Our world is merely a mirror for how we feel about ourselves so if we’re looking for yellow butterflies that’s what we’ll see even if there are purple ones floating by. It always comes down to choice – which leads me to another important lesson – the only thing we can truly control is how we view the world around us. We get to choose our reality. Along with that reality comes the responsibility for our choices. Viktor Frankl says it best, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” It’s the glass half full or half empty theory… very similar to the beliefs of Stoicism. I want the world to know that I am here to share my hard-earned knowledge, abilities and skill sets with compassion and empathy. My top character strengths are an ability to find beauty in anything or anyone, gratitude, kindness, humor and leadership. I’m here to support and guide those whose lives I touch. I wake up each day in gratitude and ask the Universe, “Who can use some of what I’ve got to give?!” I want the world to know, “You are not alone.”
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
I happen to live in a beautiful state! Southern California has tons to offer. It’s the only place I know of where one can go skiing in the morning and hit the beach in the afternoon for some BBQ, swimming, and fun in the sun! We could rent stand-up paddleboards, jet ski’s, go whale watching and stroll along some fantastic boardwalks. I would take my bestie camping amongst the majestic redwood forests, hike mountains and then go hit the Kern River for some super fun Class IV river rafting. We could hit some wineries afterward and enjoy an evening of wine tasting. If they wanted to do some shopping we could go to Rodeo Drive or shop along Sunset Blvd. while gazing at the Hollywood sign. There are ENDLESS things to do, see, and experience in Southern California. It truly is an amazing state!
Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
There have been so many influences in the course of my life. The ones that come to the forefront for me are: My children Maxx and Cat. Being their mom has taught me more than any other person on this planet. I am so grateful for their existence in my life. JRNI Coaching – their training and continued support have been instrumental in giving form and function to my strengths and abilities. The books/audios of Brene Brown and John Gottman – their wisdom on relationships and self-love have been wonderful. The study of Stoicism – it dovetails beautifully with my philosophy of personal responsibility and accountability. I have learned more about myself and what it means to journey consciously towards self-actualization with him than in all my previous relationships combined. I am forever grateful for his contribution to my emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical well being!
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