We had the good fortune of connecting with Jessica Graham and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Jessica, what’s one piece of conventional advice that you disagree with?
As an artist and entrepreneur, I’ve heard the word “hustle” so many times. I’ve also heard that you have to “want it” more than anything else. That you need to be willing to sacrifice everything else to reach your goals. I think this is really limiting and sets people up for burnout. This philosophy also creates an attachment to outcome, which can blind us to many possibilities. Our addiction to busyness and hustle connects our worth and value to our productivity. This is not the path to a happy and fulfilling life. We must be willing to find our inherent worthiness outside of our accomplishments and what we do in the world. I don’t use the word hustle or the word busy when talking about my life. None of what is happening on the outside matters if I don’t have inner peace and fulfillment. I believe in rest and self-care as the number one ingredient for success.
Let’s talk shop? Tell us more about your career, what can you share with our community?
I am multi-passionate, or polyamorous, in my career. I love supporting individuals and couples in the realms of sex, relationship, and spirituality. I love directing films and acting in films. I love writing, including the process of creating my book, Good Sex: Getting Off without Checking Out. While I sometimes have to direct more or less energy to aspects of my work, I believe in letting all my selves shine, and encouraging others to do the same. I’ve had a lot of healing to do in my life, which has probably been the biggest challenge – and biggest gift. I’ve learned so much though my suffering, and on the path of awakening to freedom from suffering. There have been some very dark days, filled with depression, anxiety, and a longing for annihilation. There were times that I didn’t think I’d make it through. But my contact with Universal Love through spiritual practice has guided me to fulfillment and connection – even in the most profound of emptiness. I believe that spiritual/sexual/creative awakening is our birthright as humans. It is a great honor to offer support and guidance to my clients on the path of awakening. Storytelling is healing and illuminating and I strive to create films and characters that can start conversations and change perception. By nurturing the artist in me, I can nurture the artists in my clients too. Plus creative energy and sexual energy are the same thing! So, by expressing creatively we can also tap into our sexuality more deeply. And by the way, a spreadsheet or cooking dinner for your family can be creative. It’s all about where you are coming from.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
I love Trails Cafe, Huntington Gardens, and Skylight Books.
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
Jackie Shea https://jackieshea.com/
Left to right, Shayan Asgharnia Dave Garrett Sarrafian Joseph Cultice Jack Hauser Sibay Films First photo is a self-portrait