We had the good fortune of connecting with Lindsey Rei and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Lindsey, we’d love to hear about how you approach risk and risk-taking
“Leap and the net shall appear” I am a big believer in this quote and it has guided me well in my adult life and career. I have always been an intuitive person, but it wasn’t until about 5 years ago that I truly tuned deep into that intuition and actively listened to it. It took a massive mind shift. In 2016, I took a leap and invested in a clothing business, I left an unhappy marriage, and became a single working mom. It was scary as you know what! I had no savings, lots of debt, and questioned everything I was doing. But I did it and am so glad I did. That leap changed the trajectory of my life and I am so glad I LEAPT! Taking that big risk lead me to where I am now. I am happy. My life and work have a purpose. I am debt free. I own a successful birth business as a doula and perinatal educator and am currently in school to be a homebirth midwife. It definitely has not been an easy road. I have been knocked down more times than I care to count, but I believe that being open and transparent with my life and struggles has lead me to my success as a birthworker and to where I am today. I believe that there is not ONE single way to birth or raise your children, there is YOUR way. I believe education surrounding birth and birthing options is lacking in the United States; that we are HUGELY fear driven. I believe in informed consent. Most importantly, I believe in BIRTH!
Let’s talk shop? Tell us more about your career, what can you share with our community?
My own transition to motherhood is truly what lead me to becoming a birthworker; which is what I am doing today. My pregnancy was full of fear and fear mongering from my providers. I spent 15 weeks on (unnecessary) bedrest and was so lonely and isolated. My pregnancy lead to a traumatic surgical birth experience and my daughter spending time in the NICU. It was awful. Truly. I had no voice and no say in how I wanted my birth experience to be. I was truly unaware that childbirth was a shared decision making process and that I had a choice in my provider AND in my birthing options. I discovered how truly important it is to have a support system and advocates in place during these life changing moments. You don’t have to do this alone, and having guidance and care during the process is proven to increase positive outcomes. This experience ignited my passion for birthwork and initiated my journey as a birth worker. Being an advocate and educator means that my goal is to make sure that pregnant people feel heard, supported, and cared for in their pregnancy and birth experience. I want to help eliminate the fear that surrounds birth in America. I feel that we are a fear based society and the majority of decisions surrounding birth are fear induced decisions. It is important that we normalize birth and it is important that birthing families have options on how and where they would like to birth. In addition to my doula work, I am currently enrolled in midwifery school at National Midwifery Institute (NMI) in the pursuit of becoming a home birth midwife.
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
If I had a friend visiting, we would definitely go to the beach! I live in the valley, so I am about 30 minutes away from the ocean and it is one of my favorite places. Feeling the sand between our toes and jumping in the waves. Definitely an LA staple. I LOVE to cook! I always joke that food is one of my love languages. As a single mom, I don’t get the opportunity to cook much of the things that I really want. So I would definitely plan some fun meals for us to stay in and enjoy together. If I was off call from births, I would take them wine tasting. I LOVE wine. We would also probably go see a musical. In my past life (aka pre kiddo) I was an actor/singer/dancer and musical theatre was a HUGE part of my life. I still dance for fun and love going to support local theatre.
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
A shoutout to my family and friends! It takes a village and I am so grateful for my village!