We had the good fortune of connecting with Marcelle Craig and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Marcelle, what’s the most important thing you’ve done for your children?
I’m a new parent (like just became a mom in December 2020) but as I think about the future impact on my son, one thing that stands out to me is my career. I hope that when he gets older and looks at Mommy’s job, he sees his important it was to help others. I want to teach him to be empathetic, go out of his way to assist people, and remind himself that we all are on a journey so to show compassion. Being a therapist is one of the ways that I do this on a regular basis. And I also want him to see that I invested and believed in myself even when I didn’t see the next step on my path.
Let’s talk shop? Tell us more about your career, what can you share with our community?
A lot of people get an initial idea of what therapy is like from the movies and tv. When I watch those, most of the time I don’t think I’m anything like those therapists. And even with the therapists I’ve personally gone to or have heard about from others, I feel like there aren’t a lot that are like me. Although I’m a good fit for my clients, I recognize that my unique vibe doesn’t make me a good fit for everyone. I think that a session with me has the vibe of talking to a friend. A friend who is going to tell you like it is and hold you accountable. Someone who is also going to be a support and pull you up when you’re feeling low. But also that friend who isn’t going to put their own values on you. I know it’s a weird line for a therapist to relate their sessions almost to chatting with a friend but I think it’s because, while I’m very professional and hold firm boundaries, I also am myself. I speak to my clients similarly to how I speak to other people so there’s just more of a casual and familiar feel to it. That works for some people. Unfortunately, one of the challenges can be is that some people will sometimes push boundaries because it does feel so casual. I think I’m pretty good at letting them know where the line is and what’s appropriate for our time together and our relationship without shaming them. I try to model for them the same things that I tell them in sessions- setting boundaries doesn’t have to be mean. It’s just letting someone know what is okay or not okay to do and it can still be done in a respectful way.
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
This is a really tough question with COVID and all. Pre-COVID I would say that my absolute favorite thing to do is go to the beach. Maybe I was born as a water animal in a former life. So, as long as the weather is right, I’m telling them to bring their swimsuit and we’re hitting the beach. We’re definitely packing some food while we’re there so maybe grabbing a pizza. Sandwiches are great but pizza tastes good hot or cold and doesn’t get soggy right away. Then we’d get cleaned up that night and go out for tacos. Who can pass up a good taco?! I’m pretty low key so that sounds like a great day for me. We might go on a hike another day and grab a drink at a small outside bar. I’m also a fan of 90’s hip hop and R&B so if I could find a party that I know would be playing some Bobby Brown or TLC, we’re definitely going to hit that up! Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
I dedicate my shoutout to my family, especially my husband. I was feeling drained by my work back in 2019 and backed in a corner with what to do next. In our personal life, there was a lot going on and probably not the best time for me to take big financial risks. But he believed in me and encouraged me to take a huge leap first with quitting my job and being a contract therapist full time followed by an even scarier leap of opening my private practice. It really could have took us under but he backed me up with this dream and continues to be my biggest cheerleader. I couldn’t ask for a better supporter.