We had the good fortune of connecting with Monique DeBose and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Monique, is there a quote or affirmation that’s meaningful to you?
“Comparison is the thief of joy,” by Teddy Roosevelt. To me, this is my North Star. If I don’t have my attention on that Northstar, I will easily slide into the groove of, “they have this, oh, well, their team’s doing this, or Oh, they have that out.” All that stuff kills and it literally steals my joy. Those six words, comparison, is the thief of joy. As soon as you hear those six words, it acts as an alignment for my spirit, and for my humaneness. It just gets me right back into the truth and helps me focus on what I can be a part of. So I like that.
Let’s talk shop? Tell us more about your career, what can you share with our community?
My work is about transformation. I feel like the music I create is medicine, it is a wonderful tool that activates, shifts in people’s consciousness, shifts in their ways of being. Because music is such an easy pill to swallow, I feel like it’s a beautiful opening of people to themselves. That to me is what sets me apart from both other musicians as well as other coaches or transformational leaders. I use a mix, and a combination of both, very explicitly, to create containers for change for people.
I’m really excited that something that I feel is so in alignment with who I am, and so natural for me is the path I’m actually taking, and I’m seeing that it supports others. I think we are all taught, or a lot of us are taught that, you know if you follow your heart. You’re here to do specific work. Oftentimes a lot of us are not in alignment, because we’re afraid to do that. Or it doesn’t make sense. So the world has told us No. So I’m most excited and proud that I’m listening to that call. And I’m seeing the like, I’m seeing the results of that comeback in a way that is very affirming. I guess I didn’t have complete faith that that was true. And I’m seeing through this work that it is true.
I’ve always loved music from the time I was a young child, I used to roller skate in my backyard to my albums and just be taken by the music and then coaching. I remember going on a trip to East and West Africa with a group. There was just something about two of the people in the group that really spoke to me. They radiated something amazing to me and I was like What is it? I found out they both received a master’s program in spiritual psychology, and that was my entry into coaching. I’d always been a curious child, I’ve always been somebody who pondered why we are, who we are, and what got us here. Although I didn’t realize it at the time, even as a kid when I was rollerskating in my backyard listening to music, I was also trying to commune with spirit as a kid as I look back now, so it was a natural progression.
Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
Well, my trip would already be longer than a week. Ialready know that. But if I have to make it one week, huh? Okay, if it’s a week long trip, I think we would go first class to Uganda. We fly into Kampala, visit some childhood friends I have there just to be connected to the community. Then we would drive to the Bwindi impenetrable forest and track with mountain gorillas for the week and each night after tracking for hours and spending time with the gorillas we would Come back to our camp and have delicious dinner with other visitors and other people who live there. We would play Scrabble under the stars and listen to great music. Then we’d also have to find a place, I don’t know where this water source would be, but we’d jet quickly to the coast of Mombasa in Kenya, and live on the beach for a while, for a couple of days.
Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
My, mom. I feel like my mom has always been someone who wants the best for me, even if that’s scary for her, or outside her comfort zone. She’s held steadfast in her support when I’ve been clear about what I’m doing. She’s been right on board. I don’t think she had that type of support in her life, so to be able to give that support really rubbed against the norms that she’d been taught to be able to stand in support anyway. My mom deserves some credit in my story because she’s been that supportive force, even when the art and the work that I’ve been creating has been painful or challenging to her way of being her world of safety. She’s still shown up and supported and encouraged.