We had the good fortune of connecting with Rena Martine and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Rena, what’s the most difficult decision you’ve ever had to make?
Leaving my lengthy career as a prosecutor with the L.A. County District Attorney’s Office was the scariest decision I’ve ever made (and I’ve made quite a few!). Going from being on the county payroll since my twenties–never having to worry about buying health insurance, planning for retirement, etc.–to being an entrepreneur has been a huge shift for me. But what began as a terrifying leap of faith has turned into the most exciting journey I could have imagined. I’m creating a greater impact as a women’s intimacy coach and educator that I could have made in a courtroom.

Can you open up a bit about your work and career? We’re big fans and we’d love for our community to learn more about your work.
I spent 14 years a deputy district attorney prosecuting cases of sexual assault, child abuse, and domestic violence. I got to see firsthand the incredible capacity we have to rewrite our narratives if we’re simply given a safe space and asked the right questions. But as I was helping women who had survived some of the most traumatic sex crimes imaginable–incest, brutal rape–I was battling my own sexual shame. I had been in a revolving door of long term romantic relationships that followed the traditional trajectory and monogamous structure, but I was terrible at it. I felt broken, and wanted to be fixed.

I made a firm resolve to get to the bottom to “fix” myself. Through extensive therapy and self education, I realized there wasn’t actually anything to be fixed. I wasn’t broken, I was just different. I exited my marriage and began building a life of my choosing. Dissolving my own sexual shame was the catalyst that changed the course of my life; it gave me a life, in fact. I saw that as women, intimacy and sexual empowerment are our birthrights. I obtained a coaching certification so I could begin helping other women love their bodies, experience deep intimacy and have great sex, shame-free. Within a matter of months, I left my lengthy career as an attorney in order to pursue intimacy coaching and education full time. I developed my SHAMELESS coaching program, which has helped dozens of women–many of whom have been through extensive therapy–achieve life changing results in a matter of weeks (instead of years or decades). I continue to educate hundreds of women per month on a variety of topics pertaining to sex and intimacy.

Most other coaches are either women’s empowerment coaches, sex coaches or dating coaches. Many of them are using spiritual based approaches, or merely providing tips and tricks to use in the bedroom or to “hook” a partner. My approach is grounded in neuroscience and an understanding of how our brain works, where our subconscious shame lies, and how to gently move women outside of their comfort zone in order to create lasting change. If we can unearth the core beliefs that are preventing women from becoming empowered in their intimate lives, it leads them to become empowered in every facet of their lives.

Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
I’m born and raised in Los Angeles, and have always lived on the East Side. My heart and soul are tied to this part of the city. Some things I would suggest:
– Riding the swans (pedalos) at Echo Park Lake. Being able to float on the water while enjoying the palm trees and sunny L.A. skies is a truly magical experience.
– Grand Central Market is a great place to graze your way through L.A.’s wide variety of delicious food.
– My favorite bar/restaurant in L.A. is The Edendale in Silver Lake. It’s a converted 1920’s fire station with a serene back patio. Be sure to check out the inside foyer, though, with the Old Hollywood portraits on the wall.
– My favorite spot for Mexican food in L.A. is La Cabanita in Montrose/Glendale. It’s a family-owned spot with the most delicious salsa you’ve ever had.

Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
I’d like to dedicate my Shoutout to my partner, Dan. He has been my biggest cheerleader, believing in me more than I often believe in myself.

Website: www.renamartine.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_rena.martine_/

Image Credits
Kristi Griffith Fer de la Rosa

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