We had the good fortune of connecting with Tania Damha and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Tania, do you have some perspective or insight you can share with us on the question of when someone should give up versus when they should keep going?
You will never know whether to keep going or to give up, but don’t let it stop you from making a choice. With every choice comes loss. In order to achieve something great, you have to let go of something bad. Letting go and choosing is hard. Life works in mysterious ways. There were times where I thought I knew it all. I reached a goal and that unsatisfactory feeling crept up, “Is this it?” Sometimes I did give up and an extra try could have helped me to reach my goals. You will not know. Keep moving forward. Even if things do not go as planned, you will learn valuable life lessons.
Our dreams are incomplete when we create them. When we reach the top, the real learning happens. You were told to chase that pot of gold. What if there is no external pot of gold? The treasure chest is already inside you, waiting. You look in the wrong places and frantically try to find “it” and when it appears, it is a pot with fake coins.
Instead of trying to “know” it all, just do and be. Become an architect. Build your house and live and love. Be okay with certain outcomes, because no matter how hard you fight, certain curveballs will be thrown at you. I rushed through life and missed out on the beauty around me. As I get older I slow down. It makes me happier.
The poet Rilke said, “Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves—like locked rooms and like books that are written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given to you because you would not be able to live them. The point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.”
People are obsessed with answering life too fast. And sometimes we receive the wrong answers as a result. Obsessing about a Ph.D. or pursuing jobs parents wanted for us or buying excessive material stuff. Climbing the wrong mountains kills many hearts. Instead, develop your self-respect by being courageous and compassionate at the same time. Trust the ebbs and flows in life. There are days you keep going and days you let go.
Learn from the sun. She is not only winning out there. During the day she is. At night she retreats and allows the moon to win. Cherish the not knowing. It is the mystery of life.
Can you open up a bit about your work and career? We’re big fans and we’d love for our community to learn more about your work.
I am not afraid to change. I pursued several professions in my life. I was a banker, an actress, an entrepreneur, had my own hot sauce company, produced tech events, and worked as a Tour Director traveling with groups. Every time I try something new, and it turns out to be hard, I grow and develop a higher level of self-respect.
I recently published my first book. A pandemic was not going to stop me. Life is too short, and we have to keep going. It is a self-help/memoir. The name of my book is, “Get Rid of Your Bullshit Life and Kick Ass.” It teaches you how to win in life. I wrote the book because I saw people struggling in life, including myself. I wrote the book I wished was out there.
My book is for late-bloomers. For folks who do not know what next steps to take. Many of us are doing jobs we hate. I want to help people to get unstuck. I was stuck for years. Luckily I woke up one day and was able to change. I write about my journey. What it took for me to live a Bullshit-Free life and Kick Ass. The pandemic showed us what is important.
What sets me apart is my resilience. When things get hard I blossom. I come up with innovative solutions. There is always a door that can be opened. And if not, I create my own door and walk through it. You will be surprised at how much you can do. It is in our mindset. Let your mind work for you instead of sabotaging you.
Of course, it was not easy. I always tell people to get ready to do some serious zigzagging in life. We will not arrive at our dream life in a straight line. Sometimes you have to do other jobs. Sometimes your ego gets bruised. Sometimes you have to move to another country. But easy nope. People who tell you it was easy were lucky.
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
Monday: A hike in Griffith Park and afterward lunch in Los Feliz. Evening dinner at a Seafood Restaurant.
Tuesday: Drive to the Hollywood Sign. My friend needs a picture up there! Evening Happy Hour at a wine bar.
Wednesday: Go to Ojai or Laguna Beach. If we go to Ojai then in the afternoon pick fruits in the nearby orchards.
Thursday: Norton Simon Museum and Descanso Gardens. Evening dinner in Beverly Hills.
Friday: Outlet in Commerce. Wine tasting in Barnsdall Art Park. Evening Marty and Elayne at Dresden Lounge.
Saturday: The Last Bookstore in Dtla. Afternoon China Town and Little Tokyo. Evening Hotel Cafe in Hollywood.
Sunday: Hollywood Farmer’s Market. Afternoon lunch at one of the beaches. Evening Hollywood Bowl or Greek Theater.
Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
I want to dedicate my shout out to the people working hard in the pandemic so we can “live” our lives. The postman, the grocery clerk, the nurse, the dry cleaning lady, the police officer, the baker, the farmer. Not everybody can work from home. Some of us are lucky to receive unemployment, but people who still work, risking their life that to me deserves praise.
Other: Email: firstname.lastname@example.org