We asked some folks we admire to share one piece of conventional advice they disagree with.

Paul-Roy Taylor, PhD | Licensed Psychologist

As a psychologist specializing in sex and relationships, a piece of conventional advice I disagree with – and that I see in various forms – relates to “always work on your relationship.” To the contrary, the best thing you can do to improve your relationship is to work on yourself. Focus on your individual desire to be the partner you want to be: learn to better handle conflict, communicate what you really mean when you mean it, manage your own anxiety around difficult conversations, self-validate rather than rely on the validation of your partner; Read more>>

Julia Jasunas | Actor/Comedian

“Always hav a backup plan.” I really disagree with that phrase when perusing your dreams because that means there’s doubt in every move you make. I think if you have a passion and you are perusing it to the fullest, there’s no need for a backup plan. That being said, I wish someone suggested to me early on to forget the degree in Musical Theatre, take acting, singing, dance lessons etc. in Los Angeles and maybe go to a trade school. It’s a hell of a lot cheaper, less time, you have the ability to network at a younger age in the city where the work is, and you’ll always have a skill to utilize in tandem with perusing your actual goals. I approach my work very methodically and intentionally. Read more>>

Mike Aviles | Musician, Actor & Writer

“Have something to fall back on”… it instills a belief in yourself that you’re going to fail. Read more>>

Lindsay Powell | Vocalist/Musician/Producer

I don’t agree with putting money first. I don’t mean money isn’t important – as someone who has been making music for fifteen years I am at a point in my career where I need to be paid for most opportunities. But when I look back, I think of the connections I’ve made with bands/artists, the fun I’ve had and the community I’ve built just from doing the thing I love regardless of the money it’s making me, it makes me happy. It makes me feel more complete. I think if anyone is considering starting a band or a solo career and decides that they are doing it for the money then the motivation is off and you’re sort of setting yourself up for a miserable pursuit of something that is, quite honestly, fairly elusive in the music industry. Read more>>

Jeff Scult | Entrepreneur | Author | Humanist

That “the older you get, the less risk you should take. Because your dye has been cast.” I firmly believe the greatest risk we harbor as humans is unrealized potential. It plagues us, paralyzing potential, as we are taught to play it safe. All too often, that means not sharing our deepest heart gifts. I was this for 51 years. I was haunted by a nightmare of being on my deathbed and taking my last breath in the shame I held back my gifts out of a scarcity mindset to instead play it safe. Read more>>

Angy Chin | Entrepreneur

In adversity your character is built Read more>>

Liethers | Published author & illustrator

If someone tells you to “Go where the money is,” just make sure you factor in the value of job security, pension, work culture and work-life balance. Of course it’s a well-meaning advice (I mean, who’s gonna turn down a few extra 0s on their paycheck?) but this can be short-sighted. When presented with the option, choose something that’s sustainable. I took the stubborn route only to learn that our salary is not the price of our self-fulfillment nor of our peace of mind. I can only speak for myself when I say our immediate pay can complement them but it can never buy them. Read more>>