We had the good fortune of connecting with Destiny Holder and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Destiny, can you walk us through the thought-process of starting your business?
I do want my own businesses to come out of my Youtube Channel. The thought process behind creating that was that I wanted my own platform. Through life, so many people try to fit you into a box. I have many talents I want to share with the world. So I thought, why not create my own platform? I’m completely open and honest on my channel, as I am in person. I share makeup, fashion, recipes, lifestyle, and mental health information with my growing audience. The biggest goal I want to achieve from my channel is letting people know that they are not alone.
Can you open up a bit about your work and career? We’re big fans and we’d love for our community to learn more about your work.
I am my art. My experiences, my emotions, my transparency is what sets me apart from everyone. I don’t paint anymore, because I only created my best paintings out of anger. Now, I write. A poetry book is one of the many things I want to share in the future. I am most proud of the acceptance I have for my differences. I’m very unique. I’ve been told all of my life that my energy fills the room. Positive or negative, I can easily influence those around me. Which, is honestly a lot of pressure in my everyday life. I wear my emotions on my fingertips. It’s hard work for me to hide how I’m feeling. That highly emotional honesty I have is scary and intimidating for some people, and they show that through cruel ways. That’s what drives my passion for wanting to share what I go through with the public. I have struggled with the feeling of loneliness my whole life; I just want others to know they aren’t alone.
I got to where I am today, professionally, by allowing myself to become uncomfortable, over and over again. Faith in the fact that I can manifest anything I want in this life. I got to where I am by always being honest with myself. Knowing exactly where I want to be, even when it changes, and that nothing is going to stop me. My intentions are always pure and great. My dreams always include success, for more people than just myself.
The journey is not easy, and it’s not over. As I write this, I just finished the most tiring three days of this year. I had a 10 hour rehearsal, straight into a 12 hour shoot. I pulled an all-nighter, and went into a 9 hour rehearsal, that morning. The next day, I got up at 4:30am for a 16 hour shoot. I am tired.
“I Can Do All Things Through Christ Who Strengthens Me”- Philippians 4:13
The will of God is what keeps me going.
I have my battles with depression and being sucked into a dark hole of wanting to quit life, but there’s always something that pulls me back in. That’s my reminder that I’m not done here, and my purpose is greater than I think.
The biggest lesson I’ve learned from working in the industry, is to not only stand up for myself, but also decide how
much I’m going to take. There’s a lot of judgment, body shaming, and comparing that happens everyday in this line of work. Majority of dance jobs are based off of your look. As a dancer, when you grow up, it’s engraved in your brain that there is always someone who’s going to be better than you. There’s actually a lot of toxicity tied in with being a performing artist, and there’s a lot of self-healing most performers need to do when they grow up. You decide how much you are going to take. The biggest lesson I’ve learned is what I’m worth, and I’m worth a lot.
I want the world to know that I am an honest brand. Anything I create and share, through my career, is made for them. I want the world to listen. I want to give the quiet the courage to share their voice. I want to change the stigma of being “too” honest or “too” emotional.
I’m here for a long time, and you’re always welcome at my table.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
OMG I LOVE THIS QUESTION!
Okay, first we are going to Granville for brunch. I can’t eat gluten, dairy, or rice, so that is my favorite restaurant. They have these pumpkin chai pancakes that make me feel like I’m the brother in Ratatouille, eating the strawberry.
Then, we’re headed to Rodeo because that’s always a good time.
We’d have to get some good hikes in. My favorite one so far is The Grotto Trail in Malibu.
Always have to have a beach day, at Manhattan Beach.
Bike rides in Venice Beach.
Seafood night? Say, less. We’re going to Hot n Juicy. The best, hands down.
A slow drive at night, down Mulholland Dr., is always good for the soul.
If we want dessert, Erin Mckenna’s Bakery is the spot to go for my gf, df, paleo queens.
Then we’re calling it a wine night, at my place.
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
My boyfriend, Justyn Blake Swafford, deserves a lot of credit to my ongoing success story. His belief in me and my talents is stronger than my own. When I produced the idea of wanting a YouTube Channel, it was a seed. Justyn was the source of water for that seed to grow. I broke my old MacBook, by spilling water on it, and he fixed that by buying me the newest MacBook Pro. He said, “if you’re going to do it, do it right.” So I saved up and bought an entire camera kit, professional lights, and Final Cut Pro (an editing software). He surprised me with a beautiful vanity, that he built for my makeup tutorials. He shares every single one of my videos on every single platform he has, including Pinterest! He also gives me constructive criticism on my uploads, frequently. Anything I want to do, he supports me. Any new idea I create, he adds too. Any goal I decide I want to accomplish, becomes a goal for both of us. I don’t know what I would do without him.
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