We had the good fortune of connecting with Lisa de Marignac and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Lisa, we’d love to hear about how you approach risk and risk-taking
The first thoughts that pop into my head when I think about risk tasking and the role it’s played in my life are the “Big” risks I’ve taken in my life. What’s so interesting about all of these is the thread that consistently weaves through all of them: these were times when my intuitive voice broke through my monkey mind so loudly that making the “risk-taking” decision came from a place of ease and flow. Leaving a “good” job in my early 20’s and making a choice to pursue a dream career; saying “Yes” to love at first sight when I was 24 years old (happened to be something I didn’t believe in) and moving across the country to merge my life with my soul mate’s… we just celebrated our 23rd wedding anniversary this month; taking a break from that dream career to travel around the world for a year; making the decision to give birth at home; stepping out of societal norms of medical care and education to save the life of my young son; and most recently, emerging from that dark night of the soul a couple years ago to step into another calling, a reinvention, an act of service– as a mindset mastery coach and mental fitness leader. What’s so fascinating to me though as I reflect on the role of risk-taking in my life, is that the power of the risk-taking is NOT a momentary state and that deep, profoundly transformative risk-taking has been a choice I’ve made, over and over, day in and day out, to step out of my comfort zone, after spending a good portion of my life worshipping at the altar of safety and security. This type of risk-taking is deeply uncomfortable because facing fear directly and looking inward can feel profoundly humbling and insurmountable. So often, we withdraw and isolate in the face of fear and discomfort, and what we need now more than ever is for people to step into their gifts and bring them forth in the world. This is my passion–to hold my tribe of clients in their sacred capacity for radical transformation–and my mission is to support soul-centered, empathic women leaders and change-makers ready to step into their super powers in their careers and businesses.
What should our readers know about your business?
I’m a Mindset Mastery Coach and Mental Fitness leader, and founder/owner of Spark + Bloom Coaching. My passion is supporting soul-centered, empathic women leaders and change-makers ready to step into their super powers in their careers and businesses by helping them recover from burnout, and eliminate sabotaging self-doubt, anxiety and overwhelm. From a collaboratively-created partnership with my client, I commit to a vision of their unlimited and boundless potential for breakthrough and transformation. This process doesn’t end at insights and revelations — I offer tools and structures that move them into clear-headed, laser-focused, decisive action that is aligned with a deeper sense of meaning and purpose. Currently, I’m collaborating with NY Times Bestseller and Stanford-lecture Shirzad Chamine to bring his stunningly powerful mental fitness program to my clients. As a result of this partnership, I’ve developed a transformative group coaching program, in which clients are experiencing profound results because they are truly building an improved brain through simple and effective brain booster “workouts.” Research with 500,000 participants has shown mental fitness to be the best predictor of how happy a person is and how well they perform relative to their potential. The increased grey matter in the “Sage” region of the brain is visible in MRI imaging within eight weeks, and the experience is often described as life-changing.
I’d say my full life experience led me to this current path about which I’m so passionate. Ten years ago, I had so much for which I was grateful. Above all, the sweet life my husband and I cultivated with our two children, living in a beautiful home on the spectacular central coast of California. A passion career protecting my beloved ocean environment! Close and meaningful friendships, a deeply nurturing community. All this AND I had recently recovered from two decades of chronic fatigue and illness – my gratitude for this recovery settled deep in my bones. All the boxes were checked off. Externally, my life appeared to be wonderful… my life WAS wonderful! But inside, something cried out and something was deeply wrong. Looking back further, I spent my teenage and young adult years desperately dimming my light and avoiding being seen, while at the same time “achieving” in the best way I knew how. I scrambled, I did the dance, the dog and pony show – good grades, college, respectable job in the big city of Manhattan. BUT every now and then, I turned toward the voice I had known all my life and LISTENED. And sometimes, I followed the breadcrumbs. And sometimes I really had no choice, the voice was so loud and definitive – DO THIS. This voice led me to all the exquisite gifts in my life – a career and life change in my mid-twenties, which led to finding my soulmate, a world-traveling adventure, a passion career and my precious children. However, most of the time, I feared this voice with a visceral discomfort. I dismissed it, pulled away, suppressed. I ignored the messages I received, and moved through my life by sheer force of will, my divine spirit in tatters dragged along behind me like an abandoned and once-beloved childhood blanket. I avoided my internal world at all costs. While so many things in my life fell into place during this time, there was this simmering of soul-sucking numbness. My body responded and the cascade of physical symptoms piled on – chronic fatigue, hormonal imbalances and neurological dysfunctions. Using my innate stubbornness – otherwise known as sheer force of will – I found healing for my body that restored me to functionality. In 2013, my life as I knew it ended. It ended in a paradoxical twist of a spontaneous, mind-blowingly beautiful metaphysical experience, followed a few months later by my young son’s descent into a world of debilitating and mysterious illness. Life for our family became surreal — it was as though we had departed “Planet Earth” and lived on “Planet Fear.” Everything fell away, there was only desperation, survival and a crushing mourning for a life that no longer existed. My family journeyed through this no-man’s-land for over three years. Together, and separate. My son had his own journey, as did my husband, my daughter and myself. For me, I existed in terror for my son’s crumbling health. With a vice-like grip, I tried to hold on to a life that slipped through my fists like water. I lived in a near constant sensation of desperation to GET OUT of my body. For a long time, I could not see a path forward, I could not bear another second of the living we were experiencing. And then, two years into my son’s illness, my beautiful boy confessed he was losing the desire to live. In that moment, I felt as though I stood at the edge of a great precipice. Deep within, I felt a loosening and an unclenching. The softness and whispers of surrender seeded and bloomed as I relinquished control. And under this strange new acceptance, our family began to knit together again, the pain of my son’s illness woven into our new state of being. I turned toward my inner world and engaged in a delicate and tentative dialog with the voice I had muted for so long. Within a year, the voice I had so often shunned offered an answer, a blessed gift of the possibility of recovery for my son. I said YES — and pieces of the puzzle dropped into place. Together, our family discovered miraculous healing for my son that shocked not only us, but his long list of doctors. Three years later, I am still mining the lessons, and as I continue to move through renewal, I am still extracting the gifts from this dark night of the soul. I witnessed the embodiment of self empowerment bloom in my son, and in myself, through the power of neural retraining systems. I became exquisitely aware of the boundless gifts of life, and what it means to make choice after choice, day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute. I’ve discovered there’s a powerful alchemy – a beautiful duality – in making intentional choices to step outside self-imposed and societal boundaries to look deep within ourselves, while at the same time utilizing and harnessing structures and tools that are aligned with a deeper sense of meaning and purpose. I’ve used this powerhouse duality to empower profound shifts in my life and in my career, and have discovered a deep clarity of purpose that supports me in courageous, clear-headed, laser-focused decisive action.
What do I want the world to know?
Empaths, visionaries, change-makers and light workers–YOU are what the world needs now. With the US election turmoil, the pandemic throttling into a “second wave”, and the toxic soup of fear and divisiveness coming to a boil, RETREAT might be a mantra in your head. Here’s what you know in your bones, with that deep intuitive awareness—the world needs you. NOW. More than ever! Question any self-limiting beliefs that hold you back from bringing your beautiful light to the world. What if “Putting yourself out there” was NOT an energy drain, but rather a source of regenerative energy that moved you into a space of ease and flow? What then could you give the world? I’ve made this shift, and I did it at the onset of the pandemic, and I am still stunned by the simplicity of it… And here’s where I pinch myself, I have the PRIVILEGE of bringing this transformative offering to my tribe of clients!
Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
I live on the spectacular Monterey Peninsula and when friends and family come to visit, it’s all about being outdoors. There are endless hiking spots and some of my favorites, and lesser known hikes, are the Garzas Canyon Loop in Carmel Valley, the Tanbark Trail in Big Sur, and Fort Ord National Monument trails. Point Lobos State Natural Reserve is a stunning coastal hike that is a visitor favorite and so is a stroll on Carmel Beach, Carmel-by-the-Sea. For those ready to get in the water, catch a wave with Big Surf Lessons & Adventures. Make sure to ask for my favorite surf instructor, my son Alex de Marignac! Other great options for getting close to marine life are kayaking and paddle boarding in Monterey Bay or in Elkhorn Slough National Estuarine Research Reserve. The best yoga in town is hands down is Union Yoga Studio in Monterey, or if CrossFit is more your style, check out First City CrossFit. I do both! My favorite places to eat dinner and have a fantastic margarita is Cultura Comida y Bebida in Carmel or lunch at Cult Taco in Monterey. Check out Happy Girl Kitchen in Pacific Grove and Captain + Stoker in Monterey for breakfast/coffee and/or lunch.
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
On a personal note, first and foremost my husband, Jean de Marignac, who is my rock and supports me without condition; my soulmate sister, Bonnie Bufkin, who dives deep with me and holds such a sacred curiosity around our human existence. Professionally, without a doubt, my work has been dramatically and profoundly impacted by my collaboration with NY Times Bestseller Shirzad Chamine, author of Positive Intelligence. And last, my rockstar coach, Bill Carmody, who epitomizes all the best there is in transformative coaching.
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