We had the good fortune of connecting with Nathalie Botezatu and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Nathalie, what is the most important factor behind your success?
Dropping out of medical school and moving from Michigan to LA with everything I could fit into my little car, was the easiest decision I ever made. But at the same time it was also the hardest decision. When my parents moved to Michigan in the late 1980s from Romania with only a couple of suitcases and less than $200 in their pockets, they hoped that give me a life and career greater than anything I’d ever experience growing up in post-communist Romania.
I thought their dream of me becoming a doctor was my dream too. Until it actually wasn’t. My dream wasn’t just a different one, one that was driven by greater freedom, more peace, increasing impact, and unlimited financial potential. My dream was finally giving myself permission to fully be myself. My dream was also honoring my desires to build my own business while also pursuing my creative nudges (like writing a book on dating, teaching little kiddos how to play the piano, and composing and producing a minimal piano album) as stepping stones of my ultimate dream of having a career where my main job was being my authentic self and inspiring others to do the same.
The hardest part of following my dream was thinking I was crushing my parents’ dreams in the process. I believed that in order to follow my own dreams, someone else had to experience a loss of theirs as the cost. But the ultimate truth was (and it took consistent healing for me to fully believe this before seeing actual proof of it) that in pursuing what I desired, I was doing it not just for myself, but for them as well. The truth is that my dreams are meant to create a life and have an impact that my parents would be even more proud. But most importantly, would make me the most happy and most successful. I had to believe that my dream was meant for me and my family, otherwise I wouldn’t have dreamt it. And because my dream was simply just giving myself permission to BE myself, that was the most important factor behind my success. As my most authentic self, I’m my happiest, I’m my most aligned and energized, I’m my most attractive, I’m the best coach I can be, I’m my most creative, and I’m my most successful and prosperous.
So if you’re feeling conflicted in following your dreams because you’re scared of letting others down in the process, know that you wouldn’t have the dreams unless they were meant for you. And your dreams are for all of the people you admire and desire to bring along with you on your success journey too. Oh and one more thing, the people you’re scared of disappointing? If they’re meant to come along with you on your life journey, they might just become your biggest fans and supporters sooner than you think. You just have to jump first.
Can you give our readers an introduction to your business? Maybe you can share a bit about what you do and what sets you apart from others?
I have a mindset When you first meet me and begin to get to know me, it’s easy to make the assumption that I’m happy all of the time. I’m super intentional with taking care of my mental health so that I can show up as my best for my clients and within my relationships.But also, I’m really honest when I’m having a tough day, when I need extra space, and when I’m tired and don’t feel like talking.
Its wildly toxic and unhealthy to expect ourselves to be positive and bright-eyed and bushy tailed and happy all of the time. When you force an expectation of positivity on yourself, you’re also bottling up and not addressing honest emotions and thoughts, AND you’re denying yourself the opportunity to grow in relationship with yourself, within your career, and within your relationships.
I’ve experienced the most growth in my life when I’ve been honest about my internal world, my emotions. Communicating them with myself and in my career and romantic relationships was HUGE in helping me feel more aligned, valued, and fulfilled.
As an emotional being, you’re actually meant to experience a spectrum of emotions. Emotions and feelings are meant to flow throw you. And as a society, we make certain emotions mean certain things. (i.e. being happy is good and being sad is bad)
The truth is is that you don’t have to make your emotions mean anything. And you get to feel them. And you get to be honest in your relationships and interactions when you aren’t feeling your best. While working towards feeling better. And even if you don’t feel better on a particular.
That’s okay too. Taking care of your mental health is a continual process, just like any physical health journey. Some days might be really great and full of progress and other days might not be. And that’s OKAY.
What I’ll teach you as your mindset coach, is that yes, it feels good when we’re happy and positive, but even when you’re NOT, that’s okay. I’ll teach you how to process your emotions, feel them, and shift them. I’ll give you all types of mindset, coaching, counseling, and NLP tools that help you with the shifting.
Also, on a foundational level, I’ll give you a safe space to feel all your feelings. And then I’ll show you how you can eventually create that space for yourself and within your relationships too.
Give yourself permission to feel what you feel today. Whether you hire a coach or not, that’s a step towards healing by itself. And as always, I’m here to support ya if you need someone to hold space for those emotions while I teach you to shift them.
Here to make it as easy as possible. I can’t wait to support you 🙂
Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
Before you even make it to your hotel or airbnb, stop at Sidecar donuts (preferably the Santa Monica Location). The best donut you’ll have in your life is either the huckleberry or the butter and salt. You won’t regret getting both.
Get your box of donuts and walk about six blocks down Wilshire until you reach the ocean. Take a seat on a bench in Palisades Park (my partner and I and our dog Charlie LOVE taking walks here!) and eat your donuts while you breathe in the ocean air and take in my favorite view.
Dedicate at least a day to going to both the Getty Museum and the Getty Villa. Admission is free to both places, you’ll only have to pay $20 for parking once if you visit both in the same day! Start with the Museum around 10/11AM and make it to the Villa by 2/3PM. You’ll see beautiful sculptures and artifacts next to beautiful views of the city, the mountains, and the ocean.
Depending on the time of year my favorite adventure weekend would consist of a day by the beach renting bikes and riding the entire stretch of the boardwalk while getting fresh fruit from the kind vendors that walk along the beach, while I sit and read my favorite sappy fantasy romance novel. On Sunday, drive the hour and a half up to Big Bear and spend the day snowboarding or skiing. How cool is it to know that you can experience a summer activity and a winter activity all in one weekend?!
And finally, when it comes to my favorite food in LA, get Japanese BBQ in Little Tokyo, walk around all of the cute shops and get yourself a taro boba tea while you stroll.
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
I dedicate my shoutout to my parents. They thought I had lost all my marbles when I left medical school, but they still supported me through all the ups and downs. But most of all, I have them to thank for making the biggest decision of their lives; moving across the Atlantic Ocean to country they could barely speak the language. They moved to create a better life for themselves but also for me and my brother, and generations to come. So thank you Mama and Tati, for being so brave and planting me where I could truly bloom and shine my brightest, while I create even bigger dreams for myself and for us than you could have ever imagined.
I also dedicate this shoutout to my coach, Nick Tillia. You were my safe space when I felt alone and irrational while going through my quarter life crisis. You were one of the first to nurture and encourage my biggest dreams. Thank you for guiding me and supporting me through so much healing. You’ve helped me heal my body, my mind, my relationships, and my beliefs. I’m forever grateful for having you in my life.
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