We had the good fortune of connecting with A Ruth Proctor and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi A Ruth, we’d love to hear about how you approach risk and risk-taking
Taking risk has been my middle name. I jumped out the window in 2001 going to college at NCCU. I paid my way through school and graduated in four years with two bachelor degrees with a 3.6 gpa while working full time. I’ve always been a risk taker, my entire life has been a risk. From foster care to being the first in my family to graduate college and graduate school. I was born into risk growing up without my parents and having to figure “LIFE” out. Nothing for me has been easy, but that’s all apart of the lesson and my story. I self published my autobiography in December of 2020. I took a risk writing I Survived; You Can Too”, But that didn’t stop me. I used my pain to push pass my reality. I took a risk on me and it’s been an amazing ride to say the least. Self-publishing was hard work, at times I wanted to give up and table it but I pushed past my fears; 2020 was my year. I went from writing my book out on paper then typing it out on the computer to printing and editing. Then I went through edits with my editor and then a proofreading process. I’m still fine tuning things, I notice each time I read it but all in all I’m happy with the finished product. This has been a learning lesson for me. I will be prepared this next go around; educating yourself on the process is key.
Let’s talk shop? Tell us more about your career, what can you share with our community?
I began my professional career in corporate America. I became an entrepreneur at the age 23 years old opening up I_Spa; A upscale salon and spa. In 2009, the recession hit and I was forced to close the doors. I continued working in the corporate world while managing entrepreneurship. Later, my part time job in Mental health became my full time job. I enjoyed helping children and adults that resembled me and my past. I worked my way up the ladder and went from a Mentor to a Director to the Owner. I opened multiple facilities in various states and continued my success to date. Along my journey it’s been tough to say the least but God has kept me. I’ve learned so much as a leader and professional. I have had business succeed and fail but that’s apart of life.
When I began to tell my story and observed how it affected others, that’s when I knew I needed to tell my story. People would always say “You need to write a book”. I would hear that so much and once God put it on my heart, I began to journal. The journaling translated into the book. I started journaling first then began writing the book. I used that negative energy to push past my environment! I wanted more for my siblings and myself. I dreamed of better and I kept working and continued to advance wherever I worked. That pushed me to want more for myself. I used my pain to push me to level up higher when things seemed bleak. God is definitely where my strength comes from as well as my daughters. I found my strength in my broken place.
My hope is that my story will help others learn to cope and deal with their trauma. No matter what the trauma is, we all have survived something. I hope reader’s see even though I felt like my world was ending- I refused to give up and pushed forward. I pray readers will feel enlightened and empowered knowing that they too are not alone. Fight like you are about to die, your life depends on it. Fight no matter what life throws at you! You were put on this earth for a purpose and there’s no one like you! You are one of a kind and God loves you. You only have one life- Make it worth it -with no regrets. I Survived; You Can Too is all about coping and surviving trauma and still rising from the ashes. Knowing your worth and to never give up.
I used that negative energy to push past my environment! I wanted more for my siblings and myself. I dreamed of better and I kept working and continued to advance wherever I worked. That pushed me to want more for myself. I used my pain to push me to level up higher when things seemed bleak. God is definitely where my strength comes from as well as my daughters. I found my strength in my broken place.
Insert from book:
A Fighter is:
“Someone that fights: No matter how many times they fall, they are resilient and gets back up.
A (1): WARRIOR, SOLDIER”
A Survivor is:
“Someone that fights till the end and rises to the occasion no matter the barrier. Someone that has experienced traumatic events or survived chaos.
1: to live in spite of
2: to continue to press forward in life no matter the obstacle, distraction and problem.”
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
I would take them walking the nature trails in the morning to see the scenery. Since we are in the south, next would be some southern food; Fried chicken, Mac and cheese from Dame’s Chicken and Waffles in Durham, NC. For lunch, we would visit some of the Art museums in the area and grab an acai bowl from Kwench in Raleigh, NC. For dinner we would listen to come live music at a local bar downtown Raleigh and bar hop Glenwood Ave. Some exciting things we’d check out would be Black Farmers Market in Durham Nc and World Overcomers Christian Church (WOCC) on Sunday.
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
Tameka Nichole Stephenson Syrena Williams, ESQ
John Brown II with Brown Boy Fotos
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