We had the good fortune of connecting with Taryn Newton-Gill and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Taryn, is your business focused on helping the community? If so, how?
I started my business, Truer Love, because I realized there was so much internal confusion around love. What is love? What does it mean to be attracted to someone? What’s a healthy way of expressing ourselves, and what’s not so healthy? We have tons of places to meet people these days in our global, interconnected world, but people are still struggling with love. What this says to me is that just having places to meet people, whether on the dating apps, at a speed dating event, or because your neighbor’s friend’s cousin set you up, is not enough. This issue with love isn’t because there’s a lack of people; it’s because there’s a lack of emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and spaces that say emotions are safe, healthy, and welcomed. Love is based on emotions so to understand it we need to understand our emotions. Emotions are how us humans are wired to connect. But understanding our emotions is not something we’re taught in any organized, intentional way. Unless we actively take a psychology class, we aren’t taught what’s going on in our bodies and brains when we’re feeling anxious or hurt or rejected or overwhelmed. And we aren’t taught how those feelings directly relate to how we show love and receive it in return. My company’s bottom line is to help people learn to love, not only a romantic partner, though that is a large focus for most of my clients, but also how to love ourselves better and more deeply, as “we can only meet people as far as they’ve met themselves.” So often we think it’s the other person who is unavailable, but so much of the time we’re unavailable in our own ways that are also contributing to what’s keeping us from loving fully and authentically. We have a science of love; it’s called Attachment Theory and it’s what my coaching model is based on. There’s no reason in this advanced age of ours to still be struggling with love when we know scientifically what enables us to connect. I’m here to help people create secure and lasting love for good, not only so that they can find their life partner but so they can say YES to having a more quality, authentic, loving, joyful life in and of themselves.
Can you give our readers an introduction to your business? Maybe you can share a bit about what you do and what sets you apart from others?
My business is called Truer Love, and it’s a platform to help people learn to create secure and lasting love. I provide coaching services along with digital courses on love, relationships, dating, and Attachment Theory, which is the scientific study of how humans (and all mammals) bond in intimate relationships. This work is a labor of love for me; I learned about Attachment Theory after strings of failed relationships and I couldn’t get my head around why I was constantly attracted to unavailable people. Then I learned about attachment and something shifted for me: I suddenly saw myself and my love life way more clearly. It’s what led me to appreciating what a gem my husband is and giving him the chance, something I likely wouldn’t have done prior to knowing about attachment. I think my business and my message as a coach stand out because I’m shedding light on something that people already know on an intuitive level, I’m just helping them put words to it. There’s a rawness and authenticity to my brand and message and I think that’s powerful. I’m speaking the truth about what’s really going on in our hearts and minds when we love someone, and people connect to that. I think they also appreciate the wealth of information I have on love and relationships and trust me because of my own, lived experience that aligns with theirs. I also think they’re inspired by my empowering message that’s based on loving yourself first and foremost, and not to lose hope, that they are lovable and there is someone who wants to love them back out there, but it sometimes takes a bit of work to learn to see them. So much of the time we focus on these checklists of what we want in a romantic partner; how attractive they are, what they do for a living, what their interests are, but not enough people know that what actually makes a relationship last starts with how they attach and I’m proud that I’m helping people fill in this vital piece of information that can dramatically shift the quality of their relationships and their lives. Building my business was very natural for me, but I wouldn’t say it’s been easy. I started it during the pandemic after thinking on the seed of my idea for a while, but lock down and the need for money gave me the kick I needed to get it off the ground. There have been a lot of ups and downs as I sorted out how to make money while also building a business but I’m proud that I just went for it and that I’ve made it this far and am continuing to build. I’m also really proud of my podcast, Truer Love Stories, where I drop a monthly episode anonymously coaching a guest through an issue coming up in their love life. I provide my guests (and clients) with clarity about why their relationship(s) aren’t working out and help them take a look at their own subconscious patterns that lead to the kind of relationships they’re attracting (or not attracting). I started my podcast completely by myself — hosting, editing, producing all of it — because I wanted a more direct way to connect with potential clients and to get my message of self-love and self-awareness as a path to love out there. I always wanted to start a podcast but felt overwhelmed at the thought of it, but once I had a purpose it kind of just took me over and I did what I had to do to make it happen. I now have a loyal following and have had so many people reach out to tell me that I’m changing the course of their lives and relationships and there’s nothing I could be more proud of than that.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
One of my favorite places to go in LA is Franklin Village. That entire block just puts me in my happy place. From the Bourgeois Pig to the Upright Citizen’s Brigade to the great shops and restaurants, I feel like you get a lot of goodness all within a small radius of space. I also love taking a drive along Mullholland or going hiking at Fryman or Runyon Canyon where you can see the awesome views of our city. I used to live in Topanga Canyon and it’s another happy place for me, so I’d definitely take them to Topanga, maybe for coffee or lunch at Topanga Living Cafe, inside the shops and/or library, and to Jala Imports to see the magnificent statues and furniture and the (secret) waterfall. The canyons in general are filled with interesting things and people that I think speak to how eclectic and beautiful LA is. After Topanga I’d probably take people along a drive on PCH in Malibu where we’d hang out on a beach or go to a great restaurant on the water. And as a born and raised valley girl I would also definitely take them to the many awesome, locally owned restaurants, coffee shops, and retail shops that the valley has to offer. Lots of hidden gems if you know where to look!
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
Holisticism! I owe my understanding of how to start a business as a solopreneur to their classes & community! They taught me everything from how to create a content schedule to setting up a website and email list to making a priceless offering. They are so inspiring and so helpful to anyone who considers their line of work personal, intuitive, or within the wellness space.